Comments on: How do I get my fiancee more involved in our wedding planning without scaring him off? http://freakedoutbridesurvivalguide.com/how-do-i-get-my-fiancee-more-involved-in-our-wedding-planning-without-scaring-him-off/ Wedding planning tips, guides, articles about planning the best wedding. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 01:14:03 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Peace http://freakedoutbridesurvivalguide.com/how-do-i-get-my-fiancee-more-involved-in-our-wedding-planning-without-scaring-him-off/comment-page-1/#comment-575 Peace Wed, 09 Dec 2009 16:26:59 +0000 http://freakedoutbridesurvivalguide.com/how-do-i-get-my-fiancee-more-involved-in-our-wedding-planning-without-scaring-him-off/#comment-575 We just attended a wedding, and at the brunch the day after the wedding, my fiance said to the groom, "Wow, I'm surprised you guys are up so early" (the wedding ended at 2am), and the groom responded, "It's the last thing I have to attend." How sad! I know you don't want your fiance to check in and play the part of the groom, so the first thing you should do is sit down with him and ask him what he imagines his wedding to be like. Then incorporate his ideas with yours. I think most men don't get excited because they don't realize that it's their party, too. Make him feel that the wedding won't be any good with his input. Also, explain to him why you are staring so early. Maybe he doesn't understand that your guests need time to plan. Everyone wants a nice wedding and I'm sure he has ideas that will get him more involved in the planning. My fiance is excited about the wedding and has been involved in all the planning because it's not just my ideas and vision. Planning a wedding is a great time to work together as a couple and create an event that represents both of your personalities. We just attended a wedding, and at the brunch the day after the wedding, my fiance said to the groom, “Wow, I’m surprised you guys are up so early” (the wedding ended at 2am), and the groom responded, “It’s the last thing I have to attend.” How sad!

I know you don’t want your fiance to check in and play the part of the groom, so the first thing you should do is sit down with him and ask him what he imagines his wedding to be like. Then incorporate his ideas with yours. I think most men don’t get excited because they don’t realize that it’s their party, too. Make him feel that the wedding won’t be any good with his input. Also, explain to him why you are staring so early. Maybe he doesn’t understand that your guests need time to plan. Everyone wants a nice wedding and I’m sure he has ideas that will get him more involved in the planning.

My fiance is excited about the wedding and has been involved in all the planning because it’s not just my ideas and vision. Planning a wedding is a great time to work together as a couple and create an event that represents both of your personalities.

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