So my boyfriend and I met through my stepbrother and his wife’s wedding. He was friends with the wife’s brother. Their parents paid for my bf to come to the wedding, so we “owe” our meeting to them. They kindly let us live with them for 2 months. We paid them $550/month for a room in the back of their house. Then one day they told ME I had to leave (we had never exchanged any harsh words and I did whatever they asked me to do.)
So I moved to another city for a job, and instead of getting his own place, my bf stayed with them and lives with them now. He gets along with them really well, even though they strongly dislike me for some reason. For this Sunday, he had said he was coming to visit me, so I made plans for a Superbowl party with my friends. Then he remembered he had already promised the people he lives with that he would watch the game with them. He already sees them every day. We live 8 hours away from each other! He said he’s coming for Valentine’s day, but honestly, am I just totally wrong for thinking it’s messed up that he’s friends with these people? I did everything I could to make them like me, and my bf knows I was very very sad when they asked me to leave, because I had NO idea what I had done wrong. But he tells me that it’s me who can’t get along with his friends and that I should just accept that he’s not coming for the Super Bowl. He apologized for forgetting his plans and for breaking his plans with me, but I just don’t think that’s good enough. I think he should make me the priority. Am I wrong?
I don’t expect him to micromanage every last detail but this is OUR day not MY day and I want him to have equal input. I want him to feel like this is our wedding and not just my wedding. I want it to display our style not my style.
He says he wants to be involved but when I ask him questions or try to bring up planning (which I infrequently do) he always says something like, “I don’t know,” “What do you think,” “Let’s talk about it later,” etc.
