I started dating a man from Match. I am not a fan of dating sites but tried it. We texted and talked for about 6 weeks before we met to make sure we even liked each other. When we met the chemistry was great. We went bowling he joked with the couple next to us and told them we were engaged, even though we just met. Then he texted me more after that. (I miss u, I miss kissing U, etc.) So I saw him about 2 weeks ago again after 2 weeks between the first date. Again good chemistry and text like (I think about you too much, thinkin of you, miss u) But he never calls and made no future plans after another 2 weeks, so I texted him and said (”Should I be patient with u because ur crazy busy and I really like u or should I take ur lack of future plans as a sign to move on?”)
Should note he is a civil engineer during the day, runs a buisness out of his home, and sees his identical twin girls every Wed., and every other weekend.
But he doesn’t have them this weekend and said, “I really like u too, I am sorry I am so busy. Grandpa is not doing well and I am going home to IA”
Is that just a litte to bit conveinent timing or should I take that as truth. I told him I would be patient, but feel I am being strung a long a little even if he is busy.
I’m planning my wedding and I’m having trouble with my wedding dress. I’ve seen a dress I like, it is blush coloured, one shoulder, that is fitted and is a fishtail style.
My fiance’s family has traditions when it comes to weddings and wedding dress. Tradition has already dictated which church I’m getting married in but to be fair, I don’t think I would have picked anywhere else to get married as it means a lot to my fiance anyway.
When it comes to the wedding dress, there are certain guidelines when it comes to wedding dresses that have been followed for the last 22 family weddings, they have been set in place by my fiance’s great grandmother. They have been updated a couple times by his grandmother. These guidelines are:
Shoulders must be covered
Not straps
Must be white or ivory
No cleavage
Not tight.
Classic not modern – fish tail comes under this.
Must be floor length
No excess lace or beading
No shiny fabric
A second, different dress must be worn for the evening.
Should I follow them or go with the dress that I like?
I had been with my ex for 3 years and we got engaged in January and were planning a March 2012 wedding. I’ve already paid the deposit for the hall, catering, etc and was planning to spend the rest of my life with him and the day after Thanksgiving he told me he couldn’t marry me because he had met his soulmate at work. I ended up moving out of the apartment we had together and in with my sister and have not talked to him since Nov 25th. Well Tuesday I went to my doctor because I thought I had stomach virus or something and my doctor gave me a pregnancy test and told me i was pregnant. She also told me that I’m 20 weeks which is 4 months and that in my state I can only have an abortion till 23 weeks so that I have to make up my mind quickly. My only option is abortion or keeping it because I could never give up an actual child but I’m not sure I’ll be able to have an abortion at this stage in pregnancy. I have no idea how I can financially support a child since I became disabled last year due to an injury and recieve only $980 a month which isn’t even enough for an apatment in my city. I don’t know if I should tell him about the pregnancy or just have the abortion? I’ve also thought of just secretly keeping the baby and just moving out of state and not telling him but I just dont know what to do.
I had been with my ex for 3 years and we got engaged in January and were planning a March 2012 wedding. I’ve already paid the deposit for the hall, catering, etc and was planning to spend the rest of my life with him and the day after Thanksgiving he told me he couldn’t marry me because he had met his soulmate at work. I ended up moving out of the apartment we had together and in with my sister and have not talked to him since Nov 25th. Well Tuesday I went to my doctor because I thought I had stomach virus or something and my doctor gave me a pregnancy test and told me i was pregnant. She also told me that I’m 20 weeks which is 4 months and that in my state I can only have an abortion till 23 weeks so that I have to make up my mind quickly. My only option is abortion or keeping it because I could never give up an actual child but I’m not sure I’ll be able to have an abortion at this stage in pregnancy. I have no idea how I can financially support a child since I became disabled last year due to an injury and recieve only $980 a month which isn’t even enough for an apatment in my city. I don’t know if I should tell him about the pregnancy or just have the abortion? I’ve also thought of just secretly keeping the baby and just moving out of state and not telling him but I just dont know what to do.
I’m going to try to sum up a very long story as briefly as possible.
My fiance and I dated for more than 8 years. By almost year 6 we got engaged. We held off on getting married because we moved across the country at the same time, so wedding plans were put off while we tried to get jobs, build a life, etc. We moved back home a year ago and were trying to get everything back on track.
My family issue –
My father cheated on my mother. My brother feuded for years with my mother as well due to his own girlfriend problems. My italian family has big time trust and control issues, I believe, because of these events. I am the youngest and when my turn came to date, etc, they were always against me and the girl.
I am headstrong and genuinely have a good girl but my mother and one brother were always against the relationship. I was “choosing her over them.” Despite their arguments, I always kept this secret from my fiance. Unfortunately since wedding talk has come up more seriously, they have taken a vocal stance against our relationship and my fiance in general. They have gone as far as being outright rude and cold to her in person now.
My problem is this:
I have no problem defending my fiance and the relationship but it also hurts to sever ties with my family. Furthermore, I feel it is sad and unfair to subject my fiance to a lifetime of their treatment (even not speaking to them at all is unfair to the sweet girl.) I have tried speaking with my mother but she is set in her ways, as most italian moms are.
The stress of the situation is becoming too much for my fiance, who is very non-confrontational and always gone out of her way to try and make a good impression with them. Wedding plans have halted because it breaks my heart to plan a wedding without key members of my family. Now Christmas is coming, which is planned to happen AT my mother’s house. My fiance doesn’t feel comfortable going, which I understand. But from my position, I am trying to get both sides to come together and work things out. I don’t know if the relationship can last otherwise, nor do I feel it is fair to my fiance to be in a dysfunctional situation like that.
In short, trying to speak nicely to my mother and brother (to fix the situation) is being viewed as ‘uncaring’, ‘wimpy’ and ‘not having my fiance’s back’. Meanwhile, severing ties with my mother and brother seems to only make the storm worse.
I could go on for pages talking about this, but hopefully you get the idea. With Christmas coming, I need to make a smart decision. (*note, I have tried to speak nicely to my family, which has yielded no positive results. Also, most of my family, aunts uncles, etc DO like my fiance very much.)
Any advice is appreciated.
I’m a travel agent and was having a debate with the two other people I work with.
Occasionally the in-laws will come into my office and want to set up a honeymoon for their child and soon-to-be spouse as a wedding gift. But then some of the in-laws want to go along on the cruise with the newly married couple. A few of the mother-in-laws even wanted to be on the same floor with rooms right next to each other.
Ok, I obviously can’t say this to the customers, and also because I’m supposed to be selling vacations. But I think this is a bit awkward. I couldn’t imagine that the newly married couple wants their in-laws anywhere around them during their honeymoon. This is speculation, but I would guess the newlyweds feel they don’t have a say/don’t want to offend the in-laws since they’re being generous enough to pay for the honeymoon.
One of my co-workers agrees with me but has to go along with it as well. We’re not here to talk customers out of spending money! But the other co-worker thinks this is a great idea to have the entire family go along on the honeymoon. She has even hinted that the two of us are being ungrateful.
From personal experience, I get along great with my own parents and in-laws. But weddings tend to be rather stressful. To be honest, after the wedding we just wanted to get away and I didn’t want to be anywhere near my family (particularly mom and mother-in-law). Once we got back I was no longer stressed out and was glad to be around family again.
What do you think?
I originally thought I would have my bridal party (5 people) and then mine and my fiancé’s mothers.
But I’m kind of wondering if that is too many people?
Also, My mom just told me today that she thinks a few people (my two aunts and cousin) will ask to come along…my cousin’s two daughters,that are a few years younger than me, are in my bridal party…and although they are 18 and 20, she thinks their mom will kind of “expect” to be invited. Which I find pretty silly….and pretty rude if she really does just expect to tag along.
So what is appropriate and what isn’t when it comes to the amount of people that come with me?
And how do I break it to the family members that might ask, that they aren’t invited, without sounding rude?
Welcome brides, grooms, and future wedding guests I’m Harmonie Krieger your host for nuptialstv.com your video guide to planning your wedding and beyond. On this edition of Nuptialstv we will be covering planning your wedding ceremony and more importantly having fun along the way. Congratulations, you’re planning a wedding! Wedding planning revolves around one singular event: the ceremony. There is a great deal of pre-planning and post-planning related to arranging the vendors, the dresses, the tuxes, the site and the reception. Yet all of these components are directly related to the central focus that is the actual ceremony. Weddings are a symphony of organized chaos with the wedding planner in the role of conductor. There is a great deal involved when planning a wedding and the following is just a sample of what you need to account for. Whether you are the bride, mother of the bride, wedding planner or some combination thereof here is a quick checklist of your responsibilities. * Ongoing Communication with the Bride and Groom * Budget Planning * Schedules, Timelines and Checklists * Selection and booking of venues for wedding and reception * Selecting and booking of the minister or justice of the peace * Planning theme and style of the wedding * Coordinating design, ordering and mailing of invitations * Coordinating selection of wedding attire and accessories * Coordinating or Providing vendors (florist, caterer, photographer, musician, beautician, hair stylists) * Negotiating and reviewing all contracts * Assistance with marriage license * Itinerary planning * Ceremony planning * Rehearsal oversight * Direction of processional and attendant duties * Planning the reception * Wedding Day gift coordination * On-hand coordination on the day of the wedding One thing that people seem to forget in the chaos and stress of planning a wedding is HAVING FUN! Remember to take a deep breath from time to time and remember to enjoy yourself it’s only a wedding! Thanks for watching nuptialstv.com,you’re your host Harmonie Krieger offering Congratulations for the Groom and Best Wishes to the Bride!
