Wedding Planning Tips

My fiance and I are currently planning for our wedding from outside our home country so we have a number of people helping us with almost everything. My sister is organising our wedding cake so she requested that we send her sample fabrics of our colours for decor arrangements. We are buying all the clothes for the bridesmaids and groomsmen so there is nowhere else that the material will be used. Now my fiance says I should also send his family fabric samples since I sent my sister! The problem is that I dont want people wearing our exact colours on our day so I prefer the shades to be a secret, my sister has not shown anyone the fabrics. However I cant tell my future inlaws to keep my shades a secret coz it would be quite awkward. Not to be rude but I dont like the idea of people showing up at weddings looking like extra bridesmaids. Is it normal to feel this way?
How do I kindly tell him that without hurting his feelings coz he is stressing that since I sent my family member I should also send his family. Please dont be mean, your advise is most welcome.

My husband and I have been married for a year (dating for 10 years). I own a business and work in an industry where I travel a LOT. Whenever I travel, he comes with me because I personally don’t like to fly, and especially not alone.
We don’t have a problem with this and some of our friends, oddly enough the single ones or the “un”happily married ones, poke fun at us for the fact that we spend so much time together. They think it’s unhealthy for us not to spend time apart. We pretty much stopped hanging out with those friends and started hanging out with other like-minded couples and have been really happy to find people who understand where we are coming from.
Recently however, an old very dear friend of mine who moved to another country years ago, told me she was getting married. She asked me to be her maid of honor. I am so excited for her wedding. It’s a quiet small wedding in France and both my husband and I are attending together. However, she just dropped the bomb on me that she wants to have a bachelorette party in the Caribbean, “just the girls”, for before the wedding. Apparently her fiance is having a “boys only” trip to Vegas that week and she doesn’t want to sit home.
I have a few problems with this…
1. Money. We are spending a lot of money to fly to France and stay there, and now she wants me to fly to the Caribbean and spend money to stay there too.
2. Time off. This means she wants me to take half a week off of work, on top of the week I’m spending to go to France. My husband and I had already planned to spend an extra week in Europe on a cruise so we could maximize our time there and see a lot of places. So this means I’d need to take off almost 3 full weeks of work, which is virtually impossible.
3. I don’t know everyone who she is inviting but I know some of them enough to know that they are trouble with a capital T. A majority of them are single, love to drink, and perpetually on the hunt for men. I can just see this trip turning into a complete disaster, full of drunken cat fights, vomit, and heavy flirting, as it always is when this group gets together. In fact, I just traveled with 2 of them for my own destination wedding and I regretted every minute of inviting them. It was a disaster. I am way passed that stage in my life and am actually repulsed by it. Why would I want to spend a week around it?
4. She specifically requested “No Men”. This means my husband cannot come with me, and while most people think this is a welcomed break from their significant other, we don’t feel that way about each other. Even after 10 years of being inseparable, we don’t like being away from each other for long periods of time. Maybe later on down the line when we have children or have been together for a longer time, we’ll grow out of this, but at the moment, still being newlyweds and all, we aren’t comfortable traveling without each other yet.
I don’t know how to explain this to my friend. As the maid of honor I can’t just back out of the trip. In fact, I’m supposed to be the one organizing it. What do I do? How do I say it?

If you will look through the history then bridal shower will appear as a common yet important event for every family that was moving ahead for the wedding day for the bride. Bridal shower is the day when people used to offer gifts and their love for the bride. As per the rules bridal shower can be organized by the bride’s family member but anyone can organize the party on behalf of them to show the honor for the concerned person.

If you will look from the political aspects then couples can arrange a couple shower before the wedding day. Concept for couple shower is quite similar to the bridal shower but this is not exclusive for the bride’s family members or friends. In a couple shower friends and family members of both bride and groom can take part in. whether it’s a bridal shower or a couple shower, proper planning and execution of the whole process is always essential. So, keep on reading through the article to learn some helpful bridal shower planning tips.

Planning for the bridal shower highly depends on the family members, friends or on the bride itself. However, the bride can select more than one honor attendant to plan the bridal shower. If there is one maid for honor then the bride shouldn’t hesitate to look for the other bridesmaids for the necessary response towards the whole matter.

Keep in mind taking help of several people for the bridal shower is good but sometime it can too create confusion.

Choosing the right time and date for the bridal shower is the prime thing. There is no time limit for the bridal shower to take place before the marriage but celebrating such occasion before one or two month to the wedding day is always advisable. Often, bridal shower appears as a surprise party. Regardless of the date, you can invite your guests well in advance. Make sure that the date you have finalized for the bridal shower is not going to conflict with any holiday or special events. That can prevent the guest form attending the party at the right time.

There is no need to arrange an expensive bridal shower party, as this is an informal event. Well, you can go for an expensive bridal shower, but not necessarily. All you need to set a budget for the occasion and set aside the amount. Don’t act like a hero! It’s not mandatory that you have finalized the occasion that’s why you need to meet all the expenses for it. If you are independent and can meet all the expenses then well and good; you can move ahead to help the bridesmaids.

Bridal shower can become more wonderful with the help of bridal shower favors. Keep in mind sky is the limit. Therefore, watch out for the budget you are going to set for the occasion. If you are going to organize the party then consult with the bride first. What sort of party she wants and what will be the theme of the party are the prime things that needs to be decided beforehand. Whether she would like to go for a normal party at someone’s house or want to go for the restaurants to add more flavor with her bridal shower’ keep looking for such aspects thus you can organize a great bridal shower.

Make sure that the guests you are going to invite for the bridal shower should get the invitation for the wedding day. Instead of traditional invitation means you can opt for e-invitation, which will cost you less. You can too add information in the invitation about the places, where guests can find the right gifts for occasion like bridal shower. Guests are surely going to appreciate such help from you.