Wedding Planning Tips

i lived with my bf who lives abroad for about 5 months. i did this to take a break and do some traveling and soul searching. i paid for it myself and i had a great time but i had to return home to continue school. i live my parents so i can afford school. i cook and clean and basicaly keep to myself, i try to avoid relying on my parents. up until now i got a long with my parents fine..they kept out of my business and let me do my thing. my bf is planning on coming out to visit very soon and is looking into moving to my country. this is a very difficult process and we are trying to find the best solution for us. my mother keeps nagging me about why we just dont get married already. shes living in a “mother knows best” mentally, one that believes since we were unmarried and lived together that we should have been married yesterday. personally we would love to but me and my bf know this will open up a world of stress mainly financial debit,primarly due to the legal fees assoicated with moving to another country; which neither me or my boyfriend can deal with right now. We want to get married down the line…we just dont think right now is the right time. I told her this, that its something we are considering but our situation is unique and we need to be flexible and dont want to rush into something as serious as marriage. for some reason she seems to think that all her meddling is going to help me but all i can see it doing is hurting my relationship . she even seems to think it cute and likes to mention how i am just a baby (im 24) and how its her job to be a meddling mother because she knows how it should be but i am personally getting more and more frustrated and insulted by her constant disregard of my own judgment and opinions. i dont think shes thinking past what others maybe thinking and the excitement of planning a wedding. how can i get her to back off so i can be an adult?

Too often, stress about invitations, cakes, bridesmaids, makeup and more overshadow the actual romance of a bride’s big day.

That’s not without reason, because planning a wedding is an involved process. In fact, The National Women’s Health Information Center’s Web site cites getting married as one of the most stressful events in a person’s life.

Barbara North, M.D., medical director for Instead, Inc., a company devoted to developing better alternatives for women’s health, says too much wedding-related stress can actually hinder plans for the big day.

“Women will sometimes worry so much about details like favors and bridesmaid gifts that they literally worry themselves sick,” says Dr. North. “While it may seem necessary at the time, too much wedding stress can take its toll on both the bride and her relationship.”

To avoid the wedding-day blues, Dr. North offers tips to keep brides happy and relaxed.

Don’t forget to eat. It’s not crucial to your marriage that you fit the coveted size-6 designer dress on your wedding day, but it is important for your body to be in good condition.

Some women may exercise and start dieting before their weddings, which is fine, if you’re staying healthy. If you eat right, drink plenty of water and get enough calcium, you can ensure you’ll be in better shape both physically and mentally for the big day.

Also, don’t forget to eat a light meal the morning of your wedding. You’ll need fuel to make it through the ceremony, pictures and up to the cocktail hour.

Sense your cycle. Stress can actually impact a woman’s monthly cycle, affecting everything from the timing of her flow to hormones and pain. While some women plan ahead and use the pill to “schedule” their periods around their weddings, you can’t always ensure how your body will react.

Plan instead by having the right tools. North recommends that her clients use the Instead Softcup, which addresses menstrual issues to avoid ruining bridal whites and the wedding night.

Stop thinking. Taking a day before the event to do anything but think about the wedding can streamline planning and help you get back your focus.

Worrying 24/7 can cause physical problems including muscle tension, insomnia, headaches, digestive issues, skin irritation, anger, sadness, or even decreased libido.

No matter how fabulous your big day, there’s nothing worse than avoiding intimacy on your wedding night because you’ve worried too much.

Rather than tying the knot with a knot in your stomach, Dr. North says you can de-stress by focusing on what really counts – your health and the health of your relationship. For more healthy wedding-planning tips, ask Dr. North online at www.softcup.com