Wedding Planning Tips

My fiancé and I are feeling a little stresses and fighting a lot.. Here’s the problem.. One of his friends is getting married this summer and I feel like he’s asking to too much. The tuxes he chose happen the be $200 a piece which happens to be one of the most expensive at men’s warehouse and I feel is crazy for a few hours. The groom and groomsmen(9 groomsmen) are going to a bachelor party at a cabin and everyone is paying $140 not including food or drinks. We are trying to save money for our own wedding but the $400 for someone else’s is not helping. We didn’t know what we were getting into when he agreed to be a part of the wedding. The groom asked for gift ideas for the men and I feel like screaming how about help with the tuxes.. Am I crazy or is this normaly what is spent? I was in a wedding last summer and I bought a $100 dress I still have and for a couple drinks at the bachelorette party.. I think that’s fair.. Not spending half a months rent on your wedding..

My hubby (a former dancer) and I have been taking ballroom dance class quite intensively for almost three years, and we have competed in dozens of ballroom dancing competitions and have actually won few of them.
Our question concerns when we attend wedding receptions that incorporate ballroom dancing. Sometimes I’m afraid that we’ll end up “outdancing” the couple, the members of the wedding party, and the other guests. We don’t want to draw attention away from the bride and groom, but at the same time we do want to celebrate with them.
For example last autumn, at my best friend’s wedding in Miami, My husband and I did a salsa number that include multiple hammerlocks, Sombrero Enganchado, and other sexy moves. We received hysterical cheers from the female guests every minute or two through the dance. my best friend didn’t mind the ’spectacle’ at all, in fact she thought it was a pleasant surprise and very entertaining. later I found that the mother of the bride and several other guests expressed their disapproval towards my dancing to my friend (I should have noticed how they frowned at me after the reception). Nevertheless I personally thought that it was a good clean fun.
Is there a rule of etiquette regarding dancing at wedding receptions?

so im getting married i just had some questions concerning meals and appetizers.
my first question is about hors d’oeuvres/appetizers. i know that there is usually appetizers such as fruits and vegetables on a table and hors d’oeuvres is passes around by a butler. my question is im trying to keep my wedding simple. i don’t want to have appetizers and hors d’oeuvres every were.
so what should i do to make things simple. speaking of simplicity that brings me to my next point.
do you prefer a 6 course or 3 course meal for a wedding.
also i plan on having a appetizer,meal and dessert with beverages like water, alcohol,soda and Coffee and tea. should i server hors d’oeuvres or not?

I had finished sending out wedding invitations around a month ago when I was suddenly surprised with a wedding shower by my coworkers.
I only invited around half my coworkers from our small office to the wedding, really just the ones I have a close relationship to.
So several people who were not invited helped plan a surprise wedding shower at work and gave a gift. I felt awkward. I know that they were not “expecting” an invitation as a result, but at the same time one co worker in particular seems really disappointed, though she has not said anything. I could invite her, because making room for one more person isn’t difficult, but it would be obvious that it was an afterthought.

I do not think it is necessary since I am paying her to be at the wedding but I am no Amy Vanderbilt and I want to get some feedback.

My boyfriend and I have been discussing marriage very seriously and have recently narrowed it down to two reception venues. We wanted Sept 28 and the one place has it. The other place only only has Oct 20th left. It is completely booked for Sept, Oct and most of Nov. We were set to put a deposit down tonight if we like the place we are going to see. The trouble is my cousin got engaged out of the blue last week and decided she wants a fall wedding. Since she announced her engagement first (we have yet to make it official) do i just sit back and wait while she decides on a place before we book? Does that mean she has the first pick? Can we put the deposit down tonight and give her a heads up so she can plan around ours? Should we put the deposit down and wait to say anything until I get the ring? What is the etiquette? We have been in the planning stages for over a month now, she just started planning last week. My boyfriend on board with all the planning , etc. and says he ‘has his reasons’ why he hasn’t given me the ring yet. I guess he is waiting for that ’special moment’. sooo frustrating!

My fiancee was previously married about 8 years ago (divorced 2.5 years ago). Now that our wedding is being planned I’m wondering what to do about gifts. We have been living together for the past year and we certainly don’t NEED anything and I feel like if you have a previous marriage asking for gifts the second time would be tacky.
But this is my first marriage and I know that my family will want to buy me gifts. What’s the protocol here? Do we make a registry or not?

Me and my fiance are planning on having a very small ceremony with just our parents and a couple good friends in October. We are doing so because finances wont allow us to have the bigger wedding and reception that we would like. We would like to make the day memorable and celebrate with out loved ones. We were thinking of having an open invitation to our friends and family (maybe 15-20 people) to a restaurant afterwards to celebrate with us. We don’t have the money to pay for everyone that might come, would it be tacky to expect everyone to pay for themselves or to have separate checks? Not sure on the etiquette of this. Also, what are your suggestions to celebrate a small courthouse wedding with your loved ones without spending too much money?

I ordered a gift off a wedding registry that will be sent directly to the bride and groom’s home. Will it suffice to just bring a card to the wedding? Do I need to reference the gift in our card?

i need to know what the etiquette is now. do bridesmaids go before or after the bride down the aisle? i have two flower girls, obviously they go first, then 5 bridesmaids and a maid of honour?!?!?!?