Me and my fiance are planning on having a very small ceremony with just our parents and a couple good friends in October. We are doing so because finances wont allow us to have the bigger wedding and reception that we would like. We would like to make the day memorable and celebrate with out loved ones. We were thinking of having an open invitation to our friends and family (maybe 15-20 people) to a restaurant afterwards to celebrate with us. We don’t have the money to pay for everyone that might come, would it be tacky to expect everyone to pay for themselves or to have separate checks? Not sure on the etiquette of this. Also, what are your suggestions to celebrate a small courthouse wedding with your loved ones without spending too much money?
I ordered a gift off a wedding registry that will be sent directly to the bride and groom’s home. Will it suffice to just bring a card to the wedding? Do I need to reference the gift in our card?
i need to know what the etiquette is now. do bridesmaids go before or after the bride down the aisle? i have two flower girls, obviously they go first, then 5 bridesmaids and a maid of honour?!?!?!?
What is appropriate wedding gift etiquette? I was recently a brides maid in one of my best friends wedding. For her bridal shower I bought her a present off the registry and probably paid about 50 dollars, I also made two dishes to bring to the shower and brought some bags of candy as well. At the shower I noticed that she got quite a few repeat gifts (including mine). I had also noticed someone also got her the wedding gift that I had already bought her at the same time as her shower gift. It turns out that a lot of people forgot to hand in the wedding registry form when they were checking out. So, anyway, I decided to return that gift (but I still have not gotten around to returning it) and give her money as a wedding gift instead because I felt that I couldn’t trust the registry. Well, I’ve been very busy lately (i’m planning a wedding of my own for next month) and I waited until the last minute to with-draw some cash to put in with her wedding card. Well, i’ve had so many extra expenses lately I didn’t realize that I didn’t have a lot of money left in my account (and yes, this is my own fault). So I was only able to afford to give her $40.00. And now i’m really feeling guilty about this. I had wanted to give her $100.00. But, after spending $180.00 dollars on a brides maid dress, $80.00 dollars on shoes, $40.00 for alterations, and paying for gas to drive out to her wedding… I was really broke. Do you think giving her such a small gift looks tacky? I really feeling guilty about this… but I as it is my fiance and I live paycheck to paycheck and he was not able to attend the wedding, so I didn’t ask him to give me any money… but I did sign his name to the card… so now I think that we look like a couple of cheapskates. what would be a good way to remedy this situation? If there is one!
My fiance and I are currently trying to determine a wedding date. A new idea we have had is to get married this December (2011). My fiance’s sister is about 2 months pregnant with her second child, which we just found out. However, she is not married, and the father cheats on her and takes drugs – it is not a good relationship and my guess is that the pregnancy was unplanned. She took my fiance aside the other day and told him that December “probably will not work for her,” which he then passed on to me. Am I wrong to feel that she was out of place in saying this? I don’t think that her unplanned pregnancy by a loser guy deserves to be my problem when I plan the wedding. And I pretty much have my mind set up that I want the wedding in December. Please keep in mind I had wanted December before I heard she was pregnant again, so I am not doing this out of spite. However, I’m thinking I may feel guilty if his sister can’t come to the wedding. But planning a wedding is stressful enough without family trying to tell you what does and does not work for them!
I attended a wedding in March 2011. I bought a nice larger gift from the registry and supplemented it with many small (but expensive) gifts to fill it in that were very specific for the bride/grooms taste (Disney Fans). I brought the gift to the wedding (it was pretty small, maybe 50 people there) and the gifts were left on a gift table. The reception was in the church basement and right after the service, nothing fancy, just friends and family. It’s been 8 weeks now and I’ve not heard anything at all from the bride or groom. I saw them carry the gifts out of the church and put them in their car, so I know they took it. And I “see” them on Facebook several times a day. But they have never mentioned anything at all about the gift I gave them. Should I say anything? I’m just wondering if they got it and if they liked it. I spent a lot of time coordinating matching Mickey Mouse kitchen items together to outfit their kitchen perfectly (they REALLY love Mickey Mouse) with cute Disney Store stuff, so it’s not like it was cheap and my budget is tight, so it was kind of a big deal for me. I just don’t know what the general rule is for saying thank-you for a small wedding. My feelings are a little hurt, but I’d rather they just say “oh yeah, we got it, thanks, so cute” or something, rather than nothing at all. I noticed another guest the other day asking after the gift she had sent, but she is from another country and didn’t bring the gift to the wedding so she had to mail it, that was her excuse for checking in.
I have a wedding planner (that I am paying good money for) and I haven’t been able to get a response from her in over a week. My wedding is in 3 months, and I am already stressed, especially when someone that I am paying to work for me on this goes m.i.a.!! I have emailed, called, texted, and done each of these multiple times. I don’t want to be a pest, but I am paying her thousands and thousands of dollars. I do not expect her to be at my beck and call, but I do not think I am out of line to wonder what is going on with the plans. I am wondering what I should do. I know she has taken care of things up until this point and done a good job doing so, but I have things that I need her to do for me and I cannot get a hold of her. I guess something could have happened, but it would perhaps be polite to let me know she can’t quite get to me right now. What are some suggestions?
www.thebridalcoach.ca – This how-to video by Angela Fiebelkorn is about Wedding Invitations and Etiquette, the wordings, examples. It’s part of the 20 free planning series. … wedding planning wordings wording invitation invitations samples sample example examples etiquette
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