Wedding Planning Tips

I am in the USAF and she is a US Citizen that is still in the states. She is planning on visiting me in a few months, and we want to do sort of a court wedding while she is here. Is that possible? Will the legal office take care of that or not?
Thank you.

I am in the USAF and she is a US Citizen that is still in the states. She is planning on visiting me in a few months, and we want to do sort of a court wedding while she is here. Is that possible? Will the legal office take care of that or not?
Thank you.

We need some ideas for wedding decorations, party favors and such that reflects this. Any idea?

I need a song that would be good for my fiance and my soon to be sister in law. What is a good idea of songs so then I can tell her. I have one for my father/daughter dance and don’t want to leave him out of it.

Ok so I have been engaged for a year, and last year my family (mainly my mother) had some serious issues with my boyfriend, he did get a HS diploma, but refuses to go to college, and myself in the other hand I am still in college and getting my bachelors, so my mom thought he didn’t Have anything good to offer me, which I completely understand. Anyway, they worked out their issues and then HIS family stated with another issue… His sister. She is 15 and wants to constantly be around him, when they go out to the movies r the mall or other places she pretends to be his Girlfriend… Which in a way bug me very badly. I don’t think that is right, but she claims to do that to do ME a favor… anyway right after that started a whole other issue began as well, Facebook. I have an account, and His mother always tells me that I need to delete it and that I shouldn’t have any internet accounts, which I think, should be none of her business… So she puts that in my fiancés head and we argue about me having one, and then I find out his mom and sister have one too! (WTF) anyways, there was a fake account made and that person kept contacting me and telling me things (pretty much harassing me) and everything the person said would be things that only HIS family would know, I automatically thought it was his sister (and I still do think it was her) anyways once I told my fiancé that I believed it was his sister his family tried turning him against me. They told him that he is putting me first instead of putting his sister first for everything; they claimed I’m only water when they are blood. Therefore I told my fiancé to ask our church pastor what he thought was right, and the pastor said that even though we were not married yet I should come first because we are obviously getting married. Then his parents said well yea but your wedding isn’t until 2 years from now so why should she be first, when we are your family, then they began to say about I would only come first if we had a child together when we are not married (Yeah, not going to happen until after I get married) then I talked to him about starting to buy a property and start building something together for US and our (future) kids, but he went and told his mom of what I told him I wanted to start doing, and now all of the sudden they want to have a business with HIM… (BTW he has been working at their shop since he was 14… he is now 21 & they had never mentioned that to him until after I wanted to do something with him) anyway back to the whole family issue, his sister texts him talking crap about me, telling him I am a ***** a whore, you name it! & he doesn’t say anything to her because then his parents would get mad at him. He lives in an apt that we have BOTH been putting stuff in, we both cooperate in everything and all there is left to do would be me moving in, but I don’t want that until we get married. After his sister started talking about me and being a B…. to me I said I didn’t want her in the apt, because every time she would go she would use my stuff (even clothes) & idk if I’m over reacting or what it is, I’m sick of it, and if I don’t get help SOON I will be walking away from the guy I truly love..

Ok so I have been engaged for a year, and last year my family (mainly my mother) had some serious issues with my boyfriend, he did get a HS diploma, but refuses to go to college, and myself in the other hand I am still in college and getting my bachelors, so my mom thought he didn’t Have anything good to offer me, which I completely understand. Anyway, they worked out their issues and then HIS family stated with another issue… His sister. She is 15 and wants to constantly be around him, when they go out to the movies r the mall or other places she pretends to be his Girlfriend… Which in a way bug me very badly. I don’t think that is right, but she claims to do that to do ME a favor… anyway right after that started a whole other issue began as well, Facebook. I have an account, and His mother always tells me that I need to delete it and that I shouldn’t have any internet accounts, which I think, should be none of her business… So she puts that in my fiancés head and we argue about me having one, and then I find out his mom and sister have one too! (WTF) anyways, there was a fake account made and that person kept contacting me and telling me things (pretty much harassing me) and everything the person said would be things that only HIS family would know, I automatically thought it was his sister (and I still do think it was her) anyways once I told my fiancé that I believed it was his sister his family tried turning him against me. They told him that he is putting me first instead of putting his sister first for everything; they claimed I’m only water when they are blood. Therefore I told my fiancé to ask our church pastor what he thought was right, and the pastor said that even though we were not married yet I should come first because we are obviously getting married. Then his parents said well yea but your wedding isn’t until 2 years from now so why should she be first, when we are your family, then they began to say about I would only come first if we had a child together when we are not married (Yeah, not going to happen until after I get married) then I talked to him about starting to buy a property and start building something together for US and our (future) kids, but he went and told his mom of what I told him I wanted to start doing, and now all of the sudden they want to have a business with HIM… (BTW he has been working at their shop since he was 14… he is now 21 & they had never mentioned that to him until after I wanted to do something with him) anyway back to the whole family issue, his sister texts him talking crap about me, telling him I am a ***** a whore, you name it! & he doesn’t say anything to her because then his parents would get mad at him. He lives in an apt that we have BOTH been putting stuff in, we both cooperate in everything and all there is left to do would be me moving in, but I don’t want that until we get married. After his sister started talking about me and being a B…. to me I said I didn’t want her in the apt, because every time she would go she would use my stuff (even clothes) & idk if I’m over reacting or what it is, I’m sick of it, and if I don’t get help SOON I will be walking away from the guy I truly love..

Ok so I have been engaged for a year, and last year my family (mainly my mother) had some serious issues with my boyfriend, he did get a HS diploma, but refuses to go to college, and myself in the other hand I am still in college and getting my bachelors, so my mom thought he didn’t Have anything good to offer me, which I completely understand. Anyway, they worked out their issues and then HIS family stated with another issue… His sister. She is 15 and wants to constantly be around him, when they go out to the movies r the mall or other places she pretends to be his Girlfriend… Which in a way bug me very badly. I don’t think that is right, but she claims to do that to do ME a favor… anyway right after that started a whole other issue began as well, Facebook. I have an account, and His mother always tells me that I need to delete it and that I shouldn’t have any internet accounts, which I think, should be none of her business… So she puts that in my fiancés head and we argue about me having one, and then I find out his mom and sister have one too! (WTF) anyways, there was a fake account made and that person kept contacting me and telling me things (pretty much harassing me) and everything the person said would be things that only HIS family would know, I automatically thought it was his sister (and I still do think it was her) anyways once I told my fiancé that I believed it was his sister his family tried turning him against me. They told him that he is putting me first instead of putting his sister first for everything; they claimed I’m only water when they are blood. Therefore I told my fiancé to ask our church pastor what he thought was right, and the pastor said that even though we were not married yet I should come first because we are obviously getting married. Then his parents said well yea but your wedding isn’t until 2 years from now so why should she be first, when we are your family, then they began to say about I would only come first if we had a child together when we are not married (Yeah, not going to happen until after I get married) then I talked to him about starting to buy a property and start building something together for US and our (future) kids, but he went and told his mom of what I told him I wanted to start doing, and now all of the sudden they want to have a business with HIM… (BTW he has been working at their shop since he was 14… he is now 21 & they had never mentioned that to him until after I wanted to do something with him) anyway back to the whole family issue, his sister texts him talking crap about me, telling him I am a ***** a whore, you name it! & he doesn’t say anything to her because then his parents would get mad at him. He lives in an apt that we have BOTH been putting stuff in, we both cooperate in everything and all there is left to do would be me moving in, but I don’t want that until we get married. After his sister started talking about me and being a B…. to me I said I didn’t want her in the apt, because every time she would go she would use my stuff (even clothes) & idk if I’m over reacting or what it is, I’m sick of it, and if I don’t get help SOON I will be walking away from the guy I truly love..

I’m going to try to sum up a very long story as briefly as possible.
My fiance and I dated for more than 8 years. By almost year 6 we got engaged. We held off on getting married because we moved across the country at the same time, so wedding plans were put off while we tried to get jobs, build a life, etc. We moved back home a year ago and were trying to get everything back on track.
My family issue –
My father cheated on my mother. My brother feuded for years with my mother as well due to his own girlfriend problems. My italian family has big time trust and control issues, I believe, because of these events. I am the youngest and when my turn came to date, etc, they were always against me and the girl.
I am headstrong and genuinely have a good girl but my mother and one brother were always against the relationship. I was “choosing her over them.” Despite their arguments, I always kept this secret from my fiance. Unfortunately since wedding talk has come up more seriously, they have taken a vocal stance against our relationship and my fiance in general. They have gone as far as being outright rude and cold to her in person now.
My problem is this:
I have no problem defending my fiance and the relationship but it also hurts to sever ties with my family. Furthermore, I feel it is sad and unfair to subject my fiance to a lifetime of their treatment (even not speaking to them at all is unfair to the sweet girl.) I have tried speaking with my mother but she is set in her ways, as most italian moms are.
The stress of the situation is becoming too much for my fiance, who is very non-confrontational and always gone out of her way to try and make a good impression with them. Wedding plans have halted because it breaks my heart to plan a wedding without key members of my family. Now Christmas is coming, which is planned to happen AT my mother’s house. My fiance doesn’t feel comfortable going, which I understand. But from my position, I am trying to get both sides to come together and work things out. I don’t know if the relationship can last otherwise, nor do I feel it is fair to my fiance to be in a dysfunctional situation like that.
In short, trying to speak nicely to my mother and brother (to fix the situation) is being viewed as ‘uncaring’, ‘wimpy’ and ‘not having my fiance’s back’. Meanwhile, severing ties with my mother and brother seems to only make the storm worse.
I could go on for pages talking about this, but hopefully you get the idea. With Christmas coming, I need to make a smart decision. (*note, I have tried to speak nicely to my family, which has yielded no positive results. Also, most of my family, aunts uncles, etc DO like my fiance very much.)
Any advice is appreciated.

It has happened three times now. It seems like this time he finally understands the gravity of what he is doing.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Is it fixable? In your opinion, am I being a doormat for staying with him after all of this?
Despite these problems we have our whole wedding planned and he helped me plan it the whole way. I can tell he is deeply in love with me too. We have been best friends for years. I don’t want to throw this all away but I can’t stand being treated like this anymore.
Please help if you have any ideas, suggestions or comments…

My fiance and I are getting married in 3 weeks. She left another man to be with me. About every 3 months he has checked in to see how she is. I told him to stop, back in August which he agreed to do. He found out our wedding date and he started emailing her daily.
She then made plans to meet with him over Thanksgiving after I left. She did not know I knew this. However, I informed her that I felt like she was going to see him and that if she did the wedding was off. She set a date and time to meet him and lied to me about it. I then said if you see him it is over. She then realized I was on to her yet she still did not know how.
Long story short, we got into a huge fight after we returned and she looked me in the eye and lied.
I love this woman very much and resisted the urge to show her how I knew.
She says he means nothing to her. Should I trust her? I have even said that if they want to talk I want to be present but he won’t go for that. I gave in and told her I was sorry mostly because I love her so much. However, my trust has dwindled to almost nothing.
The other thing is that he happens to know who I am however he does not know me. He initiates the contact and then she continues the conversation instead of ignoring it and shutting it down. I am a large athletic man. He happens to be a sportswriter who knows how fast and strong I am. Supposedly he is a bit afraid of me. I sent him a message and let him know that he is violating our agreement. He did not reply.
I also know she called him a few days ago and it appears it was for him to discontinue contact with her. I believe this because there has not been any contact that I know of. This appeared to happen shortly before I sent him a message. The other thing is that he has been a long time friend of her family. I have tried being respectful but my patience is wearing.
Thoughts please.