My soon to be husband and I have been living together for three years, and our “baby” is our dog. She’s two, and the sweetest happiest dog anyone has ever met! We plan on having a fairly small wedding, by the beach with mainly only family. I want my dog to be involved in the ceremony perhaps, but at least there. The wedding is going to be very simple and not very fancy. Any ideas on how to involve my Penny? Is this maybe too tacky?
My soon to be husband and I have been living together for three years, and our “baby” is our dog. She’s two, and the sweetest happiest dog anyone has ever met! We plan on having a fairly small wedding, by the beach with mainly only family. I want my dog to be involved in the ceremony perhaps, but at least there. The wedding is going to be very simple and not very fancy. Any ideas on how to involve my Penny? Is this maybe too tacky?
My fiance’s brother is getting married and I feel like my fiance’s mother is making me feel obligated to participate in their wedding. Ms. D called me the other day to talk about her plans for her son’s wedding, she was telling me the bride had only $200 dollars saved up for a wedding that is suppose to take place next week. She also explained to me that they didn’t have a venue for the reception or money to pay for one. I listened and pitched her some ideas for raising money like having a garage sale etc. She has been telling the bride and groom that I am helping with the wedding. I already explained to her that I was only giving ideas but she still pushes the “coming up with the money” talks. I talked to my fiance about me being uncomfortable with this situation, so when ever his mom brings up the wedding topic he redirects the conversation. I really feel like shes trying to use me financially!
As far as me and the bride, we are not friends. On numerous occasions my fiance would call me upset because she was talking about me. Saying things like our relationship is not going to last or I don’t like her, which i feel is absurd because she doesn’t know me. From the moment I met her all I get is rolling of the eyes and very immature, unladylike things even until this day. I still show her respect even though i feel strongly she doesn’t deserve it.
I find out Ms. D is paying for flowers, dresses, making the food and more. I also over heard the soon to be bride talking on the phone saying that shes saving her money for the honeymoon and she doesn’t want all these people at her wedding. My fiance has a big family 6 sisters and 7 brothers and my fiance along with his other siblings has not received an invite. I don’t plan to show up. Ms. D herself is inviting the entire family to their wedding. How do I explain to my future mother in law that I am uncomfortable being involved or participating in attendance for this ceremony?
My fiance’s brother is getting married and I feel like my fiance’s mother is making me feel obligated to participate in their wedding. Ms. D called me the other day to talk about her plans for her son’s wedding, she was telling me the bride had only $200 dollars saved up for a wedding that is suppose to take place next week. She also explained to me that they didn’t have a venue for the reception or money to pay for one. I listened and pitched her some ideas for raising money like having a garage sale etc. She has been telling the bride and groom that I am helping with the wedding. I already explained to her that I was only giving ideas but she still pushes the “coming up with the money” talks. I talked to my fiance about me being uncomfortable with this situation, so when ever his mom brings up the wedding topic he redirects the conversation. I really feel like shes trying to use me financially!
As far as me and the bride, we are not friends. On numerous occasions my fiance would call me upset because she was talking about me. Saying things like our relationship is not going to last or I don’t like her, which i feel is absurd because she doesn’t know me. From the moment I met her all I get is rolling of the eyes and very immature, unladylike things even until this day. I still show her respect even though i feel strongly she doesn’t deserve it.
I find out Ms. D is paying for flowers, dresses, making the food and more. I also over heard the soon to be bride talking on the phone saying that shes saving her money for the honeymoon and she doesn’t want all these people at her wedding. My fiance has a big family 6 sisters and 7 brothers and my fiance along with his other siblings has not received an invite. I don’t plan to show up. Ms. D herself is inviting the entire family to their wedding. How do I explain to my future mother in law that I am uncomfortable being involved or participating in attendance for this ceremony?
theknot.com allows the bride to work on the wedding, but what I’m looking for is a website that allows parents to help as well, share & collaborate.
How Much Is Normal For A Groom To Be Involved In?
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Hi! Me and my best friend are starting to plan our weddings with our dudes. I’m wondering though about our grooms involvement differences and what you think is normal.
My groom is letting me pick whatever I want. He goes out to look at everything with me. And I ask his opinion on everything to make sure he likes it, and he pretty much always agrees. I can pretty much do what I want. Pick the date, location, food etc. And I know he’s not just saying yes to whatever I say even if he doesn’t like it, we just like the same things.
Now my friend on the other hand. Everything she’s picked so far, her groom has had a negative opinion on. He says he doesn’t mind her ideas, but thinks this and that are better ideas. She wanted a May wedding for ever, but he thinks July is better. And told her all these good reasons to have it in July, so it’s July now. She wanted outdoor, he said bugs would be too bothersome. She wanted tea cup centre pieces with cute little bags of tea leaves as the party favours, and he didn’t like that either.
I know not all couples are the same and do things differently. But I’m worried these are bad signs for her. Or am I just looking into it too much? I know the groom has to like the things too, but he seams to care too much.. like he’s the bride. A groomzilla if you will. The only other couple I know that was like this, the groom picking most of the stuff, are now divorced.
Any thoughts? Thanks!
My parents are paying for 55% of the wedding and she’s paying for 45%. (His father is deceased)
My parents live in a city 2 hour’s flight away. This weekend my mom is flying down so that we can do some typical “mother / daughter” wedding stuff together (such as cake tasting, looking for florists and searching for a dress for her). I invited my fiance along to the cake tasting and food tasting as I feel being the groom he should have some say.
But now he is insisting that his mother do EVERYTHING with us. He says she’s contributing a large sum to the wedding and should be part of the planning. When he invited her initially appearantly she said to him “isn’t this your fiancee’s and her mom’s ‘mother/daughter’ time?” And he said to her “No – I mean I’m going along so it can’t be”
My own mom is very upset about this – as being in another city this is the only weekend we’ll get to do some wedding realted stuff together and spend some quality time together – I’m her only daughter. My fiance’s mother has two married daughters and got to do all this stuff with them when they got married.
So my fiance said that on Saturday him and his mom will spend the WHOLE day with us. We will do everything together and lunch together. I told him my mom wants to shop for a dress for herself and that surely his mom doesn’t want to hang around while she tries on dresses. But he still keeps insisting. On Sunday his family is having lunch at our house and although he’s working on Monday, he insists that his mom come with us on Monday when we go to the decor hiring place.
Note this – his mom isn’t very friendly to people she doesn’t know well. The 2 previous times she met my mom – if my mom would ask a question she would answer me or my fiance back and not even look my mom in the eye. (She used to be like this with me too in the beginning)
What should I do?
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My parents are paying for 55% of the wedding and she’s paying for 45%. (His father is deceased)
My parents live in a city 2 hour’s flight away. This weekend my mom is flying down so that we can do some typical “mother / daughter” wedding stuff together (such as cake tasting, looking for florists and searching for a dress for her). I invited my fiance along to the cake tasting and food tasting as I feel being the groom he should have some say.
But now he is insisting that his mother do EVERYTHING with us. He says she’s contributing a large sum to the wedding and should be part of the planning. When he invited her initially appearantly she said to him “isn’t this your fiancee’s and her mom’s ‘mother/daughter’ time?” And he said to her “No – I mean I’m going along so it can’t be”
My own mom is very upset about this – as being in another city this is the only weekend we’ll get to do some wedding realted stuff together and spend some quality time together – I’m her only daughter. My fiance’s mother has two married daughters and got to do all this stuff with them when they got married.
So my fiance said that on Saturday him and his mom will spend the WHOLE day with us. We will do everything together and lunch together. I told him my mom wants to shop for a dress for herself and that surely his mom doesn’t want to hang around while she tries on dresses. But he still keeps insisting. On Sunday his family is having lunch at our house and although he’s working on Monday, he insists that his mom come with us on Monday when we go to the decor hiring place.
Note this – his mom isn’t very friendly to people she doesn’t know well. The 2 previous times she met my mom – if my mom would ask a question she would answer me or my fiance back and not even look my mom in the eye. (She used to be like this with me too in the beginning)
What should I do?
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Ok, I am getting married this year and I am a young bride(21). I am basically doing this on my own and on a budget. If you could please help me out with bakerys, florists, djs, bandas, decorators, anything involved in a wedding I would really appreciate it. I just don’t know where to start and I’m starting to get frustrated and haven’t even started planning. I do need the dj to play both english and mexican music. please and thank you to all that can help me out. god bless.
He’s getting frustrated with me “nagging” him about ideas. Is it just him being a man? Our wedding is scheduled for May 2010 and he think it’s waaaay too early to be planning. Let me not mention our barely there budget! We needed to start planning LAST YEAR!!! Any suggestions?
Let me clarify some things:
The only thing I’m concerned about at this point is the ceremony and reception venue and how we can save money in those areas(those are the only things I really need his input on right now)
And second (this is for the commented who asked if I’m nuts): FIRST OF ALL NO IM NOT! AND IF YOU READ CORRECTLY, YOU WOULD KNOW THAT WE’RE NOT AT OUR FINANCIAL BEST AND FOR US, THE EARLIER WE START THE BETTER! *Also I would never bore him with the colors and flowers portion, he already put that in my hands.Incoming search terms:
