Well for me, I’m going to a wedding dance, and going to have a blast with my friends! Were gunna beg for alcohol, then sell it to the teens that can’t get any. (small towns, lmfao) And I’m planning on getting my first kiss *fingers crossed* ! Then to top it , I’m staying at a friends house!
What are you weekend plans?
omfg that old fogie.
Engagement But Stalling On Wedding Plans?
Tagged Under : Engagement, Plans, Stalling, wedding
My long distance, (three hour drive away) bf has agreed to get married and he bought me a stand in ring promising to get a better one when we have time, he posted the engagement online and tells people proudly when he sees them. When I ask him when the wedding might be he jokes and says a date which is three and a half years in the future, I cant get him to talk seriously about it. He says he is being reasonable and many people are engaged for a long time, but this seems like stalling to me and I have felt put out by it. Also recently he promised to spend a whole lot of time with me then canceled just days before, now we only will see each other a handful of days in the month. He has work commitments but he is free lance and if he really wanted to could try to find work which suited us more, but he doesnt seem to want to. Now I am not sure I should agree to marry someone like this, in other ways we get on but I think we are not seeing eye to eye over this and now we are barely speaking. What does anyone else think? Should he be more serious about the wedding or am I being unreasonable to expect him to talk about it seriously in the first two months of engagment. We are not young so I dont see why we have to wait, as we are mature enough, or so I thought to know what we want. He has been married before and keeps quoting how he doesn’t want to make any more mistakes as that ended badly.
I’m engaged. My parents love my fiance, but don’t want me moving to another state to live with him. (I’m the youngest/last child left living in their home).
I have to though, because he has a full scholarship to his college so he can’t just transfer at anytime and pay the out-of-state fees. I am moving down there to attend college and his area has many more job opportunities than mine does.
I’m getting married in January 2012, and they won’t talk to me about anything to do with the wedding or moving out. I can’t tell whether they aren’t taking me seriously, or are just simply ignoring the fact that it is coming soon.
I have already tried on numerous occasions to sit down and have a serious talk with them, and they will either refuse to talk about it until “later” or they will try to convince me to wait a couple years (so I don’t have to move to another state) to get married. I’m not sure exactly what they think I would be doing in the meantime if I simply waited a couple years…
My fiance’s parents have given us the amazing gift of paying for our wedding reception in their backyard, our honeymoon is less than a $1000, and our living arrangements have already been arranged for once I move down there, so I do not believe we are being unrealistic.
Any advice please? How can I get them to take my plans seriously? I’ve already tried the “sit down and seriously talk with them” route.
I just want them to acknowledge that the plans are going to happen instead of ignoring them.
I’m getting married in a pretty forest with just me and my fiance’s parents.
Then, we’re staying in a honeymoon cabin in the mountains for a week.
After that, we’re coming home to a wedding celebration in my fiance’s parents’ gorgeous backyard (stone walkways, pool, gazebo, basketball court, lots of trees) where way too many people will show up and we will have a great time. 
I chose this route to save thousands (I’d rather save for a down payment on a house) and because I felt too much pressure to make everything perfect when we were thinking of a traditional ceremony/reception. It’s not exactly what I pictured as my dream wedding… but it’s what we can afford.
Now, everything is so relaxed and I can’t wait! I love having no stress.
My fiance’s parents’ gave us the wonderful gift of paying for our reception in their backyard, so, all in all (wedding, traveling, honeymoon, wedding celebration), it will cost about $3500.
My fiance and I live with our parents (raised to not live together before marriage).
I picked the right groom 
So, I have these questions:
1) Tell me about your wedding!
2) Is it your dream wedding?
3) Are you stressed out?
4) Why did you choose to have this kind of wedding?
5) How much will it cost?
6) Who is paying for it?
7) Do you and your fiance already live together?
Do you prefer it this way? Why?
9) Lastly, did you pick the right groom?!
And congratulations to you all!
I’m doing the bulk of the planning. I make the calls, I get the quotes, I get the options. Then I take all my info home and show him the options. Then we decide which to use together. But I’m doing the work.
We have only been planning for about two weeks. We’re paying for it ourselves. The original plan was a backyard wedding. We realized yesterday that the wedding we were planning was just what our moms wanted. So we’ve decided to go alone to Myrtle beach and get married and have our honeymoon. Then come back and do a backyard reception. It’s actually going to cost less to do it this way. Should we just tell them that financially it’s the right call?
So, our wedding is a ways off. (So far off, in fact, that we have yet to set the actual date.) But we’re still trying to plan/get ideas. So far, we mostly agree on the ceremony. Our dilemma lies in the reception.
I want something sweet, elegant, romantic, charming, and with some unique twists befitting us as a couple. He, on the other hand, wants to have a “party.” As in, a college/dance club/all-out bash. Which I don’t think befits a wedding reception at all. He claims he just wants it to be fun, and something our guests will remember. Well, I want that too. But I don’t want it to be just some regular ol’ party that we’d throw on any given weekend. I want an actual WEDDING reception. Not necessarily all princess-y classic, but definitely not a “frat party.”
Now, before any of you say what I think you’re going to say…I’m not just thinking of myself and my interests, here. I’m thinking of his, too, and our personality as a couple. I’m willing to incorporate things that he likes and wants in our wedding too. But I abhor the idea of a college-type party.
Please help. Any advice would be great!
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Hi all, I’m getting married at Christmas. I posted this again because everytime I tell someone my plans, they jump down my throat and tell me i’m horrible for not inviting my family and that i’m getting sick revenge from it.
Basically i’ve been engaged since Sept 2006, and I started to plan a wedding back then but ended up calling it off. My family got in the way, were extremely intrusive, argued with me and each other and some refused to come to the wedding. Some family members still won’t talk to me now! They’re a very unfair bunch! lol. Bear in mind that these people are on my Mum’s side of the family.
So me and my H2B decided we would get married in secret this christmas and will honeymoon in February. We’ve booked it all. It will be a small and intimate ceremony. With me and my partner and my Dad and Stepmother as witnesses. We’re going out for a meal afterwards and me and my husband will tell our families the next day. We will visit them with photo’s for them and break the news.
I am wondering how they will react? How would you react? We feel bad that the groom’s family haven’t been invited but they are also prone to interferring (albeit in a nice way) and we really just WANT to keep it small. We are very private people. We want it to be just the 2 of us and witnesses and we feel we shouldn’t have to compromise what we want to keep others happy.
People are now probably thinking – how can she not invite her own MOTHER. I understand my Mother will be upset. But I don’t want her there. She didn’t raise me. She gave me up to social services when I was 9, and my Dad took me in. That’s why i’m having him and my stepmum as witnesses. That’s what we want. Why is that so bad?
Any tips for breaking the news?
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So, I’m pregnant with my third child, and I’m having a girl this time. We have two boys, so my grandmother wanted to throw me another shower for this one (had a shower for my first 5 years ago). My grandmother lives out of town, as does the rest of my mom’s family, so the baby shower will be out of town as well.
Initially, my mother wasn’t included in any of the baby shower plans. She finally spoke up and said she’d like to be involved. However, my grandma, aunt and great aunt have taken the entire baby shower plans into their hands and aren’t letting my mom get involved at all. My mom will talk to my grandma, make plans for her to do something, then the next time they talk, she tells my mom that it’s already taken care of. This is really starting to piss me off. I love my grandma dearly, but she’s letting my aunt and great aunt take everything over and make all of the decisions. I understand she’s the one throwing the shower, but my mom has said from the beginning she really wanted to be involved. I know if I say something to my grandma, she’ll do whatever I want. She’s always given us grand kids anything we want, no questions asked, but I hate to pull that on her. My cousin always hits her up for money and favors, and I hate feeling like I’m using her. But I’m getting sick of this. The only thing my mom is doing for my shower is the cake, because I specifically asked her to do it. My mom is great with things like that and has always made cakes for special events. She even made our wedding cake which was just beautiful. When my aunt found out she was making the cake, she said “Why would you want to go through all that trouble, when we can just order one from the bakery and have it done?” That hurt my mom’s feelings, because this is something she’s always done and so far, it’s the only thing she’s even allowed to do for the baby shower. My mom was also told she could do the favors, then a week later, my grandma told her that my great aunt had found something online she wanted to do, so my mom’s idea was out.
So my question is how in the world do I say something about all this without sounding ungrateful or rude? I’m happy they want to throw me a shower, and I really am grateful, but it seems they are all going out of their way to make sure my mom isn’t included and that just isn’t sitting right with me. Thank you for any suggestions you have.
