Wedding Planning Tips

Well I call her my sister, but she’s actually my close friend of 11 years. She just told me she’s having a wedding soon and would love for me to be there. I told her I can’t be there because my husband and I are going to start trying for another baby at the beginning of the year, so attending her wedding would definitely ruin my plans. Do you think I’m a bad friend? Do you think it’ll ruin her day?
We live in different countries

I am in a relationship now with this guy it’s been 6 days. He seems to have changed after coming to my place. We had a good time. We ate dinner together. He even said he should have come over earlier so he could have spent the day. But he wasn’t as talkative as usual. He said my apartment is nice. He owns his own house. Well, he made a comment the next morning that I can’t tie him down. I thought he was joking because he had been talking before about us being together forever and a day. A female friend invited him to her birthday party and he doesn’t plan on me going. I said I thought we are in a relationship or have you changed your mind. Then he started thinking I was accusing him of his female friend. I was just wondering why he doesn’t want to spend more time with me and why he didn’t plan on me going. I wouldn’t do that to him. Is my thinking totally wrong.? I am wondering if after being around me more he is losing interest even though he said last wed. that he is falling in love with me. I just don’t get it. I guess.

My boyfriend and I are both 21 and we have been together for 3 years. Obviously as a little girl I dreamed of my wedding day and having a family as I think many girls do but I have recently found out that my boyfriend does not want any of these things. I’m not saying I want to marry him and time soon and start a family but I would like that with him one day and I would like to start to think about moving in together. My boyfriend is completely against this and has told me it is not in his 5 year plan. He has also strongly expressed that he never wants to get married as he feels like it is just a way for somebody to take his money and it is not about love any more and he has told me that he doesn’t want children because it will take up all of his money. I love him very much and don’t want to end our relationship but I don’t know how to find a happy medium does any body have any ideas?

So i went out with a girl for nearly 2 years. we broke up, because of our completely opposite scheduling, we didnt have the patience or time to spend together. (we drifted) after about 3 months of the breakup, she began dating, had a boyfriend for about 1 1/2 months, but she called it off. Its now been about 7-8 months since our initial break up, and we have only had about 2 lunch sit downs in that time. (towards the begining of the breakup) Ive gotten over the whole thing completely, i dont think or obsess over her anymore, but of course i will always have some feelings for her because we went through a tremendous amount together and planned our future together. Just a few weeks ago, she contacted me via text, trying to conversate, and i told her i was just doing me right now, that im not ready to come back, not to take it personal. about two weeks later it were my birthday, of course she text me, wishing me a happy, safe birthday with loved ones. than halloween came up, i posted a pic on facebook of myself and a lady friend of mine. (really just a friend) we had matchin set of costumes. frankenstein and the bride of frankenstein, my ex got a bit jealous and hurt, because she still has hopes of being in my future. I know she really does want me back, and of course i would definitely give it another shot. We both have our heads on straight, im almost done with school, working a partime job, my own side work, and a part time job for a famous comic book artist working for marvel comics. i am getting my career on its way with tons of opportunities, and whe is continuing school, going to get her masters. How would i could go about this getting back together? what can we do? what steps? any advice from you, if youve been in a similar situation? we are in our mid twenties, not some young highschool fling.

I stated dating this Russian girl I met online a few months back on a Pen Pals site. She actually approached me and asked me to be her boyfriend. I had nothing else going on at the time so I said, “Sure why not?”. She sent me two pictures of her through email and at first I was a bit skeptical, since I figured she might be a scammer and heard all the stories about the mail order Russian brides. We both have the same messenger on our computers and will talk frequently on the weekends. We eventually became friends on Facebook and now I’ve seen more pictures of her, so I can say now I am more elated that she seems more legit. She has started talking recently about moving to the U.S. since he doesn’t like living in Russia anymore. She’s saving up money and wants me to help her get a house out here (she hasn’t asked me for money). She just wants me to secure a deal for her. She has also suggested that we vacation together, we both meet halfway like in Germany or something. I know it’s hard to have a long distance relationship, but does this seem like something that can be real? Whenever I bring up the topic of sex, she becomes shy or changes the subject. Any thoughts?

I’m a 22 year old male living with my 21 year old female partner – we haven’t gone through an official wedding ceremony, but we are recognised as common-law husband and wife by the government. I also have a son, who is just over one year old now.
My relationship has been rocky for a while now, and when I say a while I mean pretty much a few years. Though we only started living together recently, things have rapidly gone downhill. I won’t pin the blame on either one of us, though I will admit I have contributed in a big way to the status of our relationship.
The problem is we fight all the time. And not the kind of fights that couples usually have, we have vicious battles that usually end with her feeling very hurt and upset and with me crying because of how I’ve been acting. A number of times I have threatened to leave because of a fight, and once I actually did leave and only came back after she texted me apologising and basically begging me to come back.
To make things easier (for me as well as for you guys), here’s a list of all the things that are causing problems in our relationship.
1. I have cheated on her in the past, both emotionally (if you don’t know what emotional cheating is, it’s basically when you spend more time with your friends than with your loved one and give your friends more attention) and once I actually cheated on her in the traditional way, as in going out with another girl while I was still with her. This has obviously impacted her ability to trust me in a huge way, and results in her acting negatively to me most of the time.
2. She suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder. This can sometimes result in her acting in an extremely mean way, saying very nasty things – basically she says that she hopes I die and burn in Hell forever and things like that. I know it’s not her fault, because it’s the trauma talking, but her words still hurt me even though I know she doesn’t mean them.
3. She has high-functioning autism, which causes her to behave differently towards others than normal people. The problem with this is it means she hates being touched. Now, I am a very “touchy” sort of person – I love to be hugged, kissed, petted, cuddled, held, etc. etc. It makes me feel happy, and it makes me feel loved. I’m afraid to ask that from her, since I know she hates physical contact of any kind, and she especially for some reason hates kissing on the lips, which is another thing I love. So without the ability to both express my affection and receive it, I’m left wondering what to do to keep the relationship alive. Another problem with her autism is it can cause her to say things very bluntly, which I tend to interpret as insulting and get angry at.
4. I have a rather short temper, and have a habit to be very defensive if I even think that someone is insulting me (I was picked on a lot as a child, so that might be the reason). This generally means that I tend to react with annoyance or anger when she tries to tell me something to help me better myself, because her blunt nature makes me misinterpret it as an insult.
5. I’m lazy. Extremely lazy. I hardly ever do my chores, I haven’t worked for weeks because I’ve been too lazy to apply for jobs, and I’d rather watch TV or play video games (the latter of which I can’t do, because I’ve been banned from them by her until I can keep this house clean for at least two weeks) than spend time with her or my son. Which leads me to my next point…
6. I’m a terrible father. I’ll come right out and admit that. I was extremely NOT ready to have a child – he was conceived entirely by accident, and at the time he was conceived I was planning to wait at least ten more years before I had a child. He was basically shoved into my arms (metaphorically), and though he is my child and I do love him, I tend to be very irresponsible when it comes to taking care of him – which is bad, as usually I’m the only one taking care of him because his mother is at work. Things like leaving him to play on his own and forgetting to watch him (I’m ashamed to say he’s already suffered two falls because I wasn’t watching him, one of which was out of his crib – he landed on his head, and I’m told there’s a very real chance he could have died, all because my attention was elsewhere), not playing with him enough, not feeding him enough (I do remember to feed him at his regular feeding times, but I don’t always give him enough food because I’m too lazy to try to get him to eat if he’s being fussy, which means he’s now under the ideal weight because of me), neglecting to give him his medication (he needs Ventoline every 3-4 hours because he has breathing problems), neglecting to brush his teeth (I’m the worst at this, I haven’t brushed his teeth in weeks) and a lot more things I could mention.
I’m running out of room no

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2.5+ years, going to be 3 in December. We both met in college and live 20 minutes apart at home. I recently graduated and found a job and she still have another 3 more semesters left. Our school is 3.5 hours away, so we can still see each other occasionally. In early September we decided to go on a mutual break for multiple reasons. Mainly because we argue a lot, but they are stupid little arguments that we both cause.
Early this summer I made her upset and she was thinking of leaving me, but we pulled through. This summer was tough, I started my new 8-5 job and she took an online class over the summer and had a wedding cake to make. It was going to be a big summer. With the little time I had outside of work (about 4 hours of “me” time) I spent about 2-4 with her, I would leave work and stop by her place almost every day, showing my unconditional love. It seemed to me like she did not give the favor back because everyday I came over, she had stuff to do already that did not include me or really care that I was there. I tried and did help her to the best of my ability with her wedding cake, but she would spend the entire day watching TV and maybe doing some homework and leaving the cake stuff to do at night, leaving no time to hang out with me. It felt like she was slacking on her work and not making any time for me. Not to mention she has a shore house which she went to almost every weekend, most of the time without me (she wanted to leave on Thursdays to beat traffic). It almost seemed like she didn’t really want me around. Oh and yeah, and the sex… maybe 4-5 times the whole summer. Over 100 days of being with each other and about 4-5 of those we actually did sexual things. She stopped cold turkey without warning me. So naturally that made me a little angry.
August comes and she’s back in school 3 hours away. We talked every day on my way home from work, even though sometimes I would be busy and not call her on my way home, but she was “supposed” to call me at a certain time if I didn’t call. Every time we talked she would be doing something with her roommate or just in general and never really listen/care what I had to say so that caused a lot of frustration. Come September, about 1 month after she started school again, I felt the need to break things off with her. We came to a mutual agreement to end our relationship on a rainy Tuesday. After the initial break, I wrote a note that was meant to go public but never did because that’s how I cope with stress sometimes (writing my thoughts). I was deeply hurt by our decision and it was not taken lightly. After about 2 hours or so we were talking and decided that a break would be a better solution, because we can get our heads straight and hopefully come back and be better than we were before. The break is supposed to last until December (after our 3 year anniversary) but I am feeling very stressed out and I really want to talk with her at least until then. A few days ago I contacted her in regards to something that did not deal with us, but rather my mom. She never responded. I contacted her again 2 days ago on facebook, no response (she doesn’t go on that often anymore, or she makes herself unavailable). I also sent her a text yesterday asking if we can maybe talk/text a little more (no response yet).
I am getting some anxiety for waiting for her response because idk if she found someone already (she’s very good looking). Also idk if she wants to completely break up but is not going to tell me until December (girls are masters at that). I know we love each other and despite all the things that recently happened this summer, I know there is still good chance that we can continue our relationship.
I guess my main question would be do you think our relationship is going to be doomed by the end of our break? Im not ready to lose her, but idk how she feels and she’s not contacting me at all to talk about it. Oh one last thing, we still say were in a relationship (I still refer to her as gf and visa versa(on facebook at least)).
Thank you!

okay heres the thing.. i dated this guy when i was 14 we endedup dating till i was 17 & he wus 19 then we brokeup for a year i dated some1 else for like 4 months and he went and saw other people to we brokeup because he said he didnt love me anymore but in .. that whole four months wed text echother.. alot and say we miss echother while i was dating the new guy… i went and saw him and he had no… idea i was with some 1 already and he wanted me back and i still wanted to be with him but instead i stoped talking to him and kept dating the new guy … eventually i went over seas for 2months and when i came back i relised i didnt wanna be with the new guy i dumped him and texted my ex the one i still loved only to find he still loved me but he was moving away to paris … so he moved away.. and we still kept in contact telling echother howmuch we loved echother still and missed echother… then we lost contact then one day .. 6months later my friend.. told me he added him on fb asking from my number he was back in western australia and for good to live so we started txting.. and telling echother we havent stop thinking about echother and we love chother still till this day… what i wanna know is is there such thing as true love??? and soulmates and also what do i do should i take him back… my rents dong approve they never have the last time we where together it ended badly i got kicked out n then we brokeup again for lyk the 6th time.. i thought it was other it stoped hurting asmuch as the last times and i got over it but deep down inside i new i always loved him thenn now iheard hes back n hes been msging.. so any suggestions

basically i got into this huge argument with the guy i was “talking to”. i guess he thought i was acting too much like a gf because i got mad he wasnt texting me as much as he used to. He just got really really mad and said he wasnt interested in me anymore because of the way i was acting. then he was like oh i dont even know if we can be friends.
We had a talk before he left for his 3rd year of college an hour away and he told me that he didnt want to start an official relationship when he was leaving, because he was in a long distance relationship before that didnt work out. I know this for a fact because ive been friends with him for 4 years. he said he felt that if we started dating, the distance would get between us, wed fight, and lose each other altogether, and he said he really was afraid of that. when he realized he liked me this summer, he broke up with his gf of 3 years. thats how i know he must have liked me. he said he wanted to be with me and was afraid of losing his chance. we were extrememly close.
A day later I apologized to him and explained that i wasnt trying to act like a gf and that the only reason i got mad was because i thought he was just ignoring my texts and answering everyone else. He then apologized and texted me “its fine. im sorry for accusing you”
now im afraid to push the issue of what we really are. i know we arent dating, but idk if were still “talking” or friends or even less than that. does this mean the fight is over? is he still mad? im not really sure if were back to “talking” i wanted to give him 4 days or so to cool off. good idea?
more importantly, is this repairable?

I’m married but I never did that.