Wedding Planning Tips

a vary close friend of mine asked me what i would do if it was me
she said that she had always wanted a big wedding but her boyfriend
doesn’t want that, said its a waste of time and money, he said
jest her and him go to courthouse
well she told me that she wanted to be married in the church
and have her family there
so she said that she came up with the idea of
HER- get white dress from thrift store
make her own vail
one bridesmaid her bff, ware dress she already has
HIM- ware a suit he all ready has
one groomsmen who ever he chooses ware suite he all ready has
HER make own flowers
get wedding cake from walmart get wedding topper from walmart
have a bowl of punch she makes herself
invite close family
HER
mom and dad
brother, sister-in-law, niece
sister, brother-in-law, nephew
2 grandmothers
2 grandfathers
HIM
mom and dad
sister, brother-in-law niece
brother, sister-in-law nephew
2 grandmothers
2 grandfathers
26 people all together
she said when she told her idea to boyfriend
he said no, jest her and him at courthouse
i told her she should do what her hearts says to do
but, you asked me what i would do
this is what i told her
i would say to him i have gave up my dream of a big wedding
but i still want to be married in a church and have close family
if he said no courthouse, i would say no church
if he said no, we’re going to be married in a courthouse
i would say no we’re not going to be married at all
because i’m not going to live my life were everyhing you say goes
and i have no say so at all
so did i tell my friend the right thing
she asked me what i would have done
and that’s what i would have done

Our wedding is not that far away and I am starting to make detailed plans for it. We are going to Barbados and I want to know when is the best time to leave? I haven’t booked it yet so the sooner you answer the sooner I can book it;) I know that if we leave right after the wedding it will be tiring but at least we have something to look forward to when we’re in the middle of the wedding. If we leave the next day I think that would be a good choice too..Should we leave a week after the wedding? That would give us a lot more time to clean up after the wedding and get everything ready for the honeymoon.
When did you leave for your honeymoon?
I need some ideas!! Thanks beforehand!;)

I’ve been friends with this girl since kindergarten, so a bit over 20 years. I don’t know why. I was very shy and insecure as a child and she has a very controlling personality. I wrote in my diary when I was 8 or so about how much of a chronic liar she was, and that never changed. She’s incapable of saying, “I can’t hang out with you because I have plans with someone else.” Instead, she has to make up an elaborate excuse. I’m just the opposite. I think telling the truth is simpler all around.
We stopped talking for a while in high school because she was doing drugs and hanging out with college kids and I wasn’t comfortable with that. After we re-united midway through college, it’s like our roles have been reversed: I’m the confident, independent one and she’s insecure all the time, to the point that she copies everything I do, which drives me nuts because I like being weird. It’s also occurred to me in recent years that any two people who have been friends this long ought to be comfortable being open with each other and we’re not. She acts really shallow and fake around me and I’m just not comfortable sharing with her since she tries to steal every unique hobby or thought I have and pass it off as her own by doing the same thing more dramatically. And to make it worse, I feel like I’m always being called on to boost her self esteem while she b****es about how bad she looks in dressing rooms and I feel like I’m constantly doing her little favors and getting nothing out of it myself.
She’s planning her June wedding right now and I’m feeling more drained by her than ever. But her mother told my mother (in supposed confidence) that she wants me to be her maid of honor. She hasn’t asked me yet. I have nothing but negative feelings anymore for her and I don’t really like the guy she’s marrying either. I just want out.
I know this is a bad time to just stop talking to her, but I’m starting to feel like this friendship has been bad for me all along and I’ve reached a breaking point where I can’t take it anymore.
Is there ever a good time or way to break up a friendship or does it just come down to what I feel I have to do?

We have been planning for a wedding now since May we are getting married December 16,2011 the whole planning this has been a miserable process for everyone. My mother has taken the whole thing over and when I talk to her she cries and tells me I don’t want her a part of it. Money is tight and weve spent about our budget without the cake, dj, tuxs, and catering. My fiance and I have thought about just getting married outside somewhere nice with an officiant and just our families. I already have my dress so a courthouse sounds tacky. Afterwards we could go out to a nice dinner, cut the cake there. And im thinking of just telling my friends that rsvpd only about 20 people counting a couple as 2. That we will have a cookout or something later on. Id rather spend the money on pictures and a honeymoon rather than all this stress about stupid things. Plus the BM cant guarantee he can come. opinions??

I am going to Jamaica for a friends wedding. Me and 3 other friends are sharing a room. One dropped out, so I called another friend and invited him. He responded with “I’d realistically need to include my gf on any vacation plan.” I am just amazed by that. He is a grown man and has free right to do whatever he wants. He isn’t engaged or married to her. They don’t live together, so any money he spend on this trip is all his. To me a couple doesn’t have to do everything together. My parents have taken many vacations apart.

Help…married 9 months ago (together 3 years). Some tough issues for us – have to live apart (1 hour) because he remains living in same house with elderly parents – lots of family drama there. Fighting a lot lately, mostly because I notice him increasingly distant and unaffectionate toward me, and because of my frustration and hurt over the fact that the marriage very definitely is not his first priority.
Had a huge fight last night and basically, I just lost my ability to hold in all the pent up frustration, stress, hurt and, yes, fear and I laid it all out: I told him I don’t feel like he’s putting any effort into the marriage, that he doesn’t care about me or my child, that he criticizes his father for being unkind and not treating his wife well while he acts the same way….the whole bit. I didn’t plan to go there, but I have become so overwhelmed with this situation and the fact that he has made it clear that our marriage comes second to his parents…combined with virtually no affection, tenderness or love (but lots of “joking” insults, critcism and getting angry at me for silly things).
I’m not glad this happened, particularly since his response was less than loving or collaborative. This morning, for the first time ever, he refused to even come into the room to say goodbye to me – he just flicked on the lights and yelled out “goodbye”. When I rushed over to try to hug him he pushed me away, telling me he has nothing to say to me, no feelings of warmth, nothing…for me. I asked, “Ever again?” and his answer was “not right now!”. He left, saying I’d accused him of a lot of stuff that is BS and saying I love to be the victim (?). After he was gone, I noticed he’d taken his wedding ring off and laid it on the anniversary card I’d given him last week (he forgot). Haven’t heard from him since. I’m genuinely frightened and heartbroken (remember – we live an hour apart – I have no idea when or if he’ll ever call again or if I’ll see him this weekend, as is our usual routine).

IF you are listening to a song right now. If not, what’s the last song you heard?
song I’m listening to: “Fallen Angels – Black Veil Brides”
previous song: “Dead Memories – Slipknot”
next song: “You Only Live Once – Suicide Silence”

Hey there, R&P! It’s time to crank up the Opinionateur (covered with so many cobwebs) and to get to work!
Being in a generation where there is a potpourri of favorite bands (that don’t sound much like anything before, maybe not in a bad or good way), many older generations look down on us and mouth disdainfully at us: Music is dead.
Well think about it: These hipsters, classic rock elitists, or maybe just nostalgic music lovers MAY have a point, I mean, about 25% of my grade likes these kind of “stereotypical scene kid” music, like Black Veil Brides, Blood on the Dance floor, etc., so, I mean they have to have a point… right?
And then like 50% of us probably like that stuff on radio, but the radio was never good, so they’re right… right?
And then the rest of us are jumbled up – some listen to what all these older generations listen to, some are grunge kids, and some are stuck when powdered wigs and long underwear were the fashion. Well, the older generations aren’t looking at us… right?
So, today’s Opinionateur:
a) IF you are part of my generation I am talking about (you’re probably between the ages of 13-16), what’s your opinion on all the music and bands that are popular among our generation today? Do you like the popular bands? Respect them? Don’t care? Hate them? This is completely open ended, guys. And what DO you listen to?
b) If you are NOT part of this generation, what do you think of the popular bands amongst teens these days? Like them? Have guilty pleasures? Indifferent to them? Detest them? This is completely open ended, guys. And what music DO you like?
Thanks for answering!
(some yummy BQ’s…)
BQ: Create a list of the top 5 bands that emerged from 2000-present.
BBQ(yum): What have you eaten today?
BBBQ: What is a band you respect very much that is STILL active to this day?
Enjoy.

We get soooo many peolpe asking how to become a wedding planner here.
Studies show more and more people aren’t bothering to get married.
Is there a glut of wedding planners out there?

I know this is long winded but please help me out here. I already asked this question once and the majority of the answers were people writing stupid stuff about strippers so please serious answers only.
Saturday was my big sisters hen night. She asked me to be her chief bridesmaid and so I worked hard organising things for us to do. My sister is a teacher and she loves her job so I chose a school theme for her hen night and made her the ‘henmistress’ of the ’school of hen’ (She loves walking and the countryside and she wanted to walk a mountain with her friends and then spend the night in a nearby bunk barn with drinks, music and general giggles. Not everyone’s cup of tea i know but it would have been great for her)
I made each person a sash to wear in my sisters favourite colour (green) and each sash had a ‘type’ on it like class clown, teachers pet, trendsetter, sicknote and so on. my sister had to assign each person a sash and they were all great sports who went along with it, i even designed a school crest that I put onto badges. The ’students’ had to do a pop quiz on how well they knew the henmistress and there was mr and mrs teacher training for my sister. It was really well recieved and I spent hours on it all, even designing joke graduation certificates for everyone who came.
We all got on really well except for two girls. they were sisters and they got so beyond drunk! They were picking fights and screaming at each other before crying and then they would start screaming again, it was embarrassing and everyone was totally appaulled by them. their noise and general bad attitudes meant that quite a large group of people were in bed early just because they were sick of listening to it! They went on until 3 am! My sister was gutted and it made me so angry, they ruined her night completely! One of them even insulted the owner of the bunk barn where we were staying!!!
All her friends agreed that these girls had just destroyed it for her but they have all spent money going to this place and renting out the bunk barn and buying drinks for it as well as food and booking time off work, getting babysitters etc.
Now I want to try and organise a ’school of hen reunion’ so that I can give my sister the night she deserved before her wedding (the groom was furious, he spoke to me yesterday and has cancelled the invites for the wedding that he sent to them). I need to do it on a super cheap budget so that her friends can afford it and needless to say I will not invite the two who wrecked it for her.
Has anyone got any ideas as to what we can do that will still be fun but will involve spending the least amount of money for the girls coming. I would reall appreciate any ideas or help.
thanks