I make 1500 a paycheck no rent no bills no kids im 18 i want a trustworthy honest loyal wholehearted woman im 18 and ive already had my heartbroken any suggestions for sites that are reasonable and i can actually buy one?
Technically we are not married but have been in a committed relationship with a woman that I am madly in love with for just over ten years. We have two children ages 8, a girl and 6 a boy. We are both awesome parents. About 4 weeks ago I felt as though she was distancing herself from me, initially I had thought she might be having an affair. When I questioned her about it she became really upset but assured me there was no affair. I have always had a very good ability to tell when shes not being completely truthful or forthcoming. I believed her 100% and we made love over the next couple weeks that was as good as or better than it had ever been. Then she went on a trip out of the state to the town where she grew up. During her trip I became obsessed with the possibility that she may never come back. She seemed to ignore me when I would text and call and so thoughts of infidelity swirled around in my head again. On the last day of her trip we had a nice heart to heart in which she said I needed to stop acting weird. That I was her man and she wasn’t going anywhere. I felt relieved and couldn’t wait to see her when she got back. She got back, more welcome home lovemaking and all seemed right with the world. Two days later we were engaged in a conversation about our future wedding plans. We had to make a decision on deposits and what not. We decided not to give deposits and delay the day of our wedding. It was okay but it made me press her with the events of the last few weeks still strong in my mind I asked if we were making these decisions because we were being fiscally responsible or was there something else. I could tell by the look on her face she was holding something back. So I pressed again. “Are we okay?” is what I asked. She said “I don’t feel the same.”. “about what?” I asked. “About you” was her response. She said that she isn’t happy here and wants to move back to where she grew up. The long and the short of it is that she says she no longer loves me. She says that she loves who I am and as the dad to our kids but not as a mate or companion anymore. Devastated is the only word I can use to respond to the emotions I feel. Its been 6 days since she told me this and she had agreed to go to couples counseling. SCORE! It really gave me some hope and even though I had been sharing the same bed with her and really conducting our life as if nothing had happened, I have been an emotional wreck. My behaviors are erratic. One minute Im laughing and joking with her the next Im sobbing like a baby. So I had pretty much put my hope into counseling. She has a job that has amazing benefits and to her she is able to get 8 hour long sessions of counseling. So we had inquired about the sessions and out of the blue she told me yesterday that she is going to go to a session by herself first and then together. So now because of my erratic behavior I immediately begin to think that she wants to talk about me without me hearing it or wants to tell the therapist that she doesn’t really want to go to counseling and that shes just there to appease me. If I were in a rational state of mind I might actually be able to hold on to the idea that she may just be having a mid-life crisis and is directing her frustrations towards me, as has been suggested by friends. So I don’t know what to do. I sleep 3 hours a night if Im lucky, I haven’t eaten one piece of food in six days, I stopped smoking. I constantly have to bring our situation with her and I know without a doubt she is becoming increasingly frustrated with all my behaviors. I love her completely and with all my heart and would be willing to do anything to change her mind. I commend anyone getting through all this let alone actually leaving me an answer. Those of you that do however, I thank you.
Is saving money – or is not insulting family, attendants & guests more important?
Having these two upcoming weddings in the family has been a real eye-opener how things are done by some young couples now days.
The pattern seems to be that it is more important to save as much money on the wedding and reception as possible, even if it insults or disregards the guests and participants feelings, time and money they put personally into being in or at your wedding.
I keep hearing comments about rude or inconsiderate behavior on the bride and grooms part as “Oh, they are saving money by doing that.” That’s the new approach to doing weddings.
If you want a nice wedding, you can still have one without disregarding how your grand plans and desires will adversely affect your wedding guests, your family and the bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Saving money should not be the most important goal. You may need to downsize your plans in order to not negatively affect others.
One example of this rude behavior is that instead of the bride and groom giving their attendants the customary types of gifts – as a sign of appreciation for the time, money and energy for being in your wedding – the bride and groom are going to give the attendants “straw hats”!? They say “It will be fun”!
Etiquette says this is not the time to give “gag” gifts to your attendants. They have given up their time, energy and money for dresses and tuxedos to be in your wedding! A thank you gift does not have to be expensive to say thank you in an appropriate way.
What’s the strangest thank you gift you have gotten, or what is the least considerate thing you have seen done in the name of “saving money”?
Weddings automatically spell out lavish parties, designer outfits, jewellery and receptions, all of which can cost the earth! Sometimes, you need to save in one area so that you can splash out in another. Here are some easy tips that make it possible to for you to save money but still have your dream wedding, without compromising on style.
1. Fixing a budget is the first step towards a well thought-out wedding plan. Decide on the amount that you intend to spend and allow for 25% additional expenses for all the minor unplanned items.
2. Instead of buying an expensive wedding lengha, try out new upcoming designers for a made to order outfit. They will not only put their time and effort into making you look beautiful but their price will be reasonable and the satisfaction guaranteed! The same could be done with your card designer!
3. Better still; wear your mother’s, grandmother’s, sister’s or even your mother-in-law’s wedding outfit. This way you not only save money but will also make a fashion statement. It is a trend that is fast picking up amongst brides.
4. Think about opening a wedding bank account. The tradition of placing the entire burden of expenses on the bride’s family is a thing of the past. Most couples now pay a proportion with parents also contributing to the cost. If you put all the money into one account it willl be much easier to see keep track of your expenses and see exactly how much is left.
5. Keep accurate records of what you have ordered, the total price, the deposit given and the balance that is due. Stay organized!
6. Be flexible about your plans – and save money. Wedding on a popular day like Saturday costs more. If you can consider a Friday wedding, for instance, you will probably be quoted less fro the reception and also get your first choice.
7. Remember the early bride gets the deal! Start shopping around as soon as possible. Book your photographer, venue, caterer and entertainer well in advance. Get them to agree in writing that if they put up their prices before the wedding, you will still pay the agreed price.
8. Only book a catering company or after sampling their food or in case of a photographer or florist, after you have seen their folio. And make sure you hear potential entertainers performing, either live or on tape.
9. Get a written confirmation from all you suppliers as well as the photographers, florists, caterers and car hire company. Give a preferred shot list to your photographer and confirm final numbers to the caterers. This helps in avoiding confusion and the risk of being overcharged.
10. Select flowers that are in season as they are inexpensive – try a mix of textures , fresh flowers mixed with dry and silk ones , not only does this look unusual and different , this combination also works out economical esp in the summer months as fresh flowers are wither away too soon !!
11. Invitations should always be addressed by pen, preferably in black ink.
12. This is the time to call up all family and friends to pitch in for help with the preparations. Enlist the help of that talented friend of yours for design and creative ideas.
13. Serve sparkling wine for the cocktail reception and save the finest champagne for the toasts only.
14. Make extravagant food such as fine seafood as an hors d’oeuvres rather than serving it as a main course.
15. For guests under the age of twelve, ask the caterer to make up simple and inexpensive meals. The kids will enjoy it more and you pay less.
16. Instead of an open bar, have your bartender make special festive drinks named after the bride and groom. You’ll save a lot on the overall drinks bill.
17. Bring along an emergency kit with a needle and thread, safety pins, hairpins, hairsprays, nail polish and extra pantyhose to deal with all unforeseen crisis that seem to arise at such moments.
18. If your first night is being spent at a hotel, ask the manager if they will include extras, such as complimentary champagne, chocolates and fresh fruits that they offer for newly wedded couples.
19. Plan your honeymoon well in advance. Make all arrangements and reservations as soon as possible to avail of the best offer at the best rates.
20. A slightly out of season honeymoon, just away from peak times, will get you bargains and bonus packages.
21. Let everyone know its your honeymoon. Your hotel might offer you a room upgrade!!
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