I am 20 years old, have children, planning my wedding, fiance has a good job, I’m so close to starting up a babysitting business, educated, own place, pay our bills, make smart decisions, don’t drink, smoke,do drugs, church gal, my kids are well behaved and well mannered, abide by the law. YET MY MOTHER WHOM LIVES IN AZ AND I IN CA WON’T STAY THE **** OUT OF MY PERSONAL SPACE. Like telling me feeding my son at 8 at night is too late and chewing me out. She doesn’t know I got in at 6 and didn’t finish sinner til 7:30. Or telling me how to raise my newborn daughter , she didn’t help with my son, bit oh now she wants to tell me all the **** I already know. Or blasting my business on Facebook or telling me to watch my damn mouth like im some lil kid in her house. She wants me to disown my sister cuz of their falling out but I won’t so she bitches at me. Idk can someone be my therapist for a minute? I respect, obey, and honor thou mother, BUT UGH SHE MAKES ME SO MAD. What can I say that won’t disrespect her? Thanks, a stressed out daughter. -_-
Him and I met like 30 some years ago and moved in together. But after about 7 months, I got a job at a dance place with performers, and soon enough I was assistant manager. He got upset because I was spending so much time there, but I needed the money, and I loved my job. I threatened him many times to move, and one night me had gone, and I knew it was all my fault. I was 32. I found out I was going to have a daughter and she was great. You are probably wanting me to get to the point. Well now my girl is getting married and she badly wanted to meet her father, and she is very smart and was able to find him using old phone numbers and who knows what. She still lives with me thought she is moving out soon, and a few weeks before the wedding, she went and invited her father to stay in our house. I was not for the idea at first, but I knew how much she wanted him to come, so yes, I agreed. Now the wedding is soon, and I am so into him again. We have great times together when my daughter is gone and we laugh and talk, and he said that he was sorry and so did I. I actually took him back to the dance place and I did a privet show for him and he loved it. I want him to know I like him still before he leaves again. We haven’t kissed, and I am old enough (almost 60 :p blah) to know he loves me back. We watched the notebook, and Moonstruck and we can’t help just looking at each other and even the hand holding thing. I just need to have the guts to make him stay. how do I do that?
totally up to you, I only used mine as a “something blue” didn’t have stockings
totally up to you, I only used mine as a “something blue” didn’t have stockings
Maybe I’m delusional and really am a selfish jerk. But everything I think or do is done with the intention of my friends and family, yet I get treated like a bad person – I don’t call enough, I don’t visit enough, I don’t do enough. You might hear these things from your parents when you get older, but I hear it from parents, brother, in-laws, wife and friends. I work really, really hard, demand a lot out of myself, and don’t ask for favors or anything from anyone. When I say go beyond – my wife and I don’t make a lot of money. We bought a $500 chair so my dad who has bad knees can sit in it when he comes to visit his grandson. We chose a house where we can host holidays since other people don’t have the room or time or want to do it themselves, and I’m vilified for moving too far away (also found the house with a yard for dogs to play. we don’t own dogs, but our parents do- we looked for a house for 6 months, waited another 4 to close because this met the top criteria of being large enough to host, in our budget, and have a yard). My wife and I volunteer at an organization for inner-city youth one week each year, and I spend my waking hours taking care of my new son, cooking for my wife, work, fixing things around the house, and doing it all while having severe back spasms which keep me from sleeping at night. My wife and I even rented a car and hotel room for our uncle so he could drive to our wedding and stay up there, now he complains that we don’t want him to visit because the date he chose didn’t work for us. Again, we both have median-wage jobs, we spend all our money on things everyone will enjoy. I don’t ask for a thank you, not even recognition, I just enjoy spending time with my family and making them happy, yet whenever anyone is stressed out about anything, I’m their emotional punching bag. I’m on y! answers because I don’t want to burden anyone I know with these issues (also because if I brought up that I’m unhappy, it sounds to them that I’m completely ungrateful for everything they’ve done for me), I just want to stop hearing about what a jerk I am. It makes me think that it’s too much work to be good, so why not just be a selfish ****** to everyone if I get treated the same way?
Thanks for reading all of this. I know that open communication is probably the answer. I’ve tried that, it’s not working. I think just hearing other people vent similar frustrations will make me feel better. Commiserating on Yahoo! answers.
Maybe I’m delusional and really am a selfish jerk. But everything I think or do is done with the intention of my friends and family, yet I get treated like a bad person – I don’t call enough, I don’t visit enough, I don’t do enough. You might hear these things from your parents when you get older, but I hear it from parents, brother, in-laws, wife and friends. I work really, really hard, demand a lot out of myself, and don’t ask for favors or anything from anyone. When I say go beyond – my wife and I don’t make a lot of money. We bought a $500 chair so my dad who has bad knees can sit in it when he comes to visit his grandson. We chose a house where we can host holidays since other people don’t have the room or time or want to do it themselves, and I’m vilified for moving too far away (also found the house with a yard for dogs to play. we don’t own dogs, but our parents do- we looked for a house for 6 months, waited another 4 to close because this met the top criteria of being large enough to host, in our budget, and have a yard). My wife and I volunteer at an organization for inner-city youth one week each year, and I spend my waking hours taking care of my new son, cooking for my wife, work, fixing things around the house, and doing it all while having severe back spasms which keep me from sleeping at night. My wife and I even rented a car and hotel room for our uncle so he could drive to our wedding and stay up there, now he complains that we don’t want him to visit because the date he chose didn’t work for us. Again, we both have median-wage jobs, we spend all our money on things everyone will enjoy. I don’t ask for a thank you, not even recognition, I just enjoy spending time with my family and making them happy, yet whenever anyone is stressed out about anything, I’m their emotional punching bag. I’m on y! answers because I don’t want to burden anyone I know with these issues (also because if I brought up that I’m unhappy, it sounds to them that I’m completely ungrateful for everything they’ve done for me), I just want to stop hearing about what a jerk I am. It makes me think that it’s too much work to be good, so why not just be a selfish ****** to everyone if I get treated the same way?
Thanks for reading all of this. I know that open communication is probably the answer. I’ve tried that, it’s not working. I think just hearing other people vent similar frustrations will make me feel better. Commiserating on Yahoo! answers.
Maybe I’m delusional and really am a selfish jerk. But everything I think or do is done with the intention of my friends and family, yet I get treated like a bad person – I don’t call enough, I don’t visit enough, I don’t do enough. You might hear these things from your parents when you get older, but I hear it from parents, brother, in-laws, wife and friends. I work really, really hard, demand a lot out of myself, and don’t ask for favors or anything from anyone. When I say go beyond – my wife and I don’t make a lot of money. We bought a $500 chair so my dad who has bad knees can sit in it when he comes to visit his grandson. We chose a house where we can host holidays since other people don’t have the room or time or want to do it themselves, and I’m vilified for moving too far away (also found the house with a yard for dogs to play. we don’t own dogs, but our parents do- we looked for a house for 6 months, waited another 4 to close because this met the top criteria of being large enough to host, in our budget, and have a yard). My wife and I volunteer at an organization for inner-city youth one week each year, and I spend my waking hours taking care of my new son, cooking for my wife, work, fixing things around the house, and doing it all while having severe back spasms which keep me from sleeping at night. My wife and I even rented a car and hotel room for our uncle so he could drive to our wedding and stay up there, now he complains that we don’t want him to visit because the date he chose didn’t work for us. Again, we both have median-wage jobs, we spend all our money on things everyone will enjoy. I don’t ask for a thank you, not even recognition, I just enjoy spending time with my family and making them happy, yet whenever anyone is stressed out about anything, I’m their emotional punching bag. I’m on y! answers because I don’t want to burden anyone I know with these issues (also because if I brought up that I’m unhappy, it sounds to them that I’m completely ungrateful for everything they’ve done for me), I just want to stop hearing about what a jerk I am. It makes me think that it’s too much work to be good, so why not just be a selfish ****** to everyone if I get treated the same way?
Thanks for reading all of this. I know that open communication is probably the answer. I’ve tried that, it’s not working. I think just hearing other people vent similar frustrations will make me feel better. Commiserating on Yahoo! answers.
Maybe I’m delusional and really am a selfish jerk. But everything I think or do is done with the intention of my friends and family, yet I get treated like a bad person – I don’t call enough, I don’t visit enough, I don’t do enough. You might hear these things from your parents when you get older, but I hear it from parents, brother, in-laws, wife and friends. I work really, really hard, demand a lot out of myself, and don’t ask for favors or anything from anyone. When I say go beyond – my wife and I don’t make a lot of money. We bought a $500 chair so my dad who has bad knees can sit in it when he comes to visit his grandson. We chose a house where we can host holidays since other people don’t have the room or time or want to do it themselves, and I’m vilified for moving too far away (also found the house with a yard for dogs to play. we don’t own dogs, but our parents do- we looked for a house for 6 months, waited another 4 to close because this met the top criteria of being large enough to host, in our budget, and have a yard). My wife and I volunteer at an organization for inner-city youth one week each year, and I spend my waking hours taking care of my new son, cooking for my wife, work, fixing things around the house, and doing it all while having severe back spasms which keep me from sleeping at night. My wife and I even rented a car and hotel room for our uncle so he could drive to our wedding and stay up there, now he complains that we don’t want him to visit because the date he chose didn’t work for us. Again, we both have median-wage jobs, we spend all our money on things everyone will enjoy. I don’t ask for a thank you, not even recognition, I just enjoy spending time with my family and making them happy, yet whenever anyone is stressed out about anything, I’m their emotional punching bag. I’m on y! answers because I don’t want to burden anyone I know with these issues (also because if I brought up that I’m unhappy, it sounds to them that I’m completely ungrateful for everything they’ve done for me), I just want to stop hearing about what a jerk I am. It makes me think that it’s too much work to be good, so why not just be a selfish ****** to everyone if I get treated the same way?
Thanks for reading all of this. I know that open communication is probably the answer. I’ve tried that, it’s not working. I think just hearing other people vent similar frustrations will make me feel better. Commiserating on Yahoo! answers.
Maybe I’m delusional and really am a selfish jerk. But everything I think or do is done with the intention of my friends and family, yet I get treated like a bad person – I don’t call enough, I don’t visit enough, I don’t do enough. You might hear these things from your parents when you get older, but I hear it from parents, brother, in-laws, wife and friends. I work really, really hard, demand a lot out of myself, and don’t ask for favors or anything from anyone. When I say go beyond – my wife and I don’t make a lot of money. We bought a $500 chair so my dad who has bad knees can sit in it when he comes to visit his grandson. We chose a house where we can host holidays since other people don’t have the room or time or want to do it themselves, and I’m vilified for moving too far away (also found the house with a yard for dogs to play. we don’t own dogs, but our parents do- we looked for a house for 6 months, waited another 4 to close because this met the top criteria of being large enough to host, in our budget, and have a yard). My wife and I volunteer at an organization for inner-city youth one week each year, and I spend my waking hours taking care of my new son, cooking for my wife, work, fixing things around the house, and doing it all while having severe back spasms which keep me from sleeping at night. My wife and I even rented a car and hotel room for our uncle so he could drive to our wedding and stay up there, now he complains that we don’t want him to visit because the date he chose didn’t work for us. Again, we both have median-wage jobs, we spend all our money on things everyone will enjoy. I don’t ask for a thank you, not even recognition, I just enjoy spending time with my family and making them happy, yet whenever anyone is stressed out about anything, I’m their emotional punching bag. I’m on y! answers because I don’t want to burden anyone I know with these issues (also because if I brought up that I’m unhappy, it sounds to them that I’m completely ungrateful for everything they’ve done for me), I just want to stop hearing about what a jerk I am. It makes me think that it’s too much work to be good, so why not just be a selfish ****** to everyone if I get treated the same way?
Thanks for reading all of this. I know that open communication is probably the answer. I’ve tried that, it’s not working. I think just hearing other people vent similar frustrations will make me feel better. Commiserating on Yahoo! answers.
We were together and never a day apart for 19 years, built a very successful business, and had three wonderful boys, then suddenly, she met a dance instructor 17 years older than her, and a friend of the family falls apart and runs off with him in plain view of my kids! They saw her kissing him, and my oldest followed them to a hotel… That was it, she divorced me, endless chatter about
not being happy anymore, we never go out, we grew apart, all the girls at the mall say follow your
heart, he is romantic, on and on…. So the kids called her a crewel duch bag to her face, and we divorced and separated everything. Fast forward four years, he has still not married her, she is living
in a house I helped her buy, and BTW I want it back, he is living in Boston and She lives in Utah!
They fly to see each other three or four times a year, but he has never sold his home and moved
here with her to assist with the very demanding business that one person alone can not do.. The
kids tolerate her, but have lost all respect. I openly ask her WTF is she doing? Why no marriage,
why no living together after all the 911 damage she did to this family of ours, and tell mr. Dance so
good he will need to move here next year and buy you a home, because I am taking my home ( in
my name) back! And you can go live at the shelter as far as I am concerned! Three years ago she
bought a wedding gown, he bought her a tiny $100 ring, and then nothing but excuses ! She said he
is waiting to retire, then last year he did retire, and moved here for two months, then moved back to
the east coast and took a new job! I can not understand how a Camelot story, and a million dollar
business, as well as a truly wonderful marriage, because we both felt happy….fell apart, but that is
life. All I want is for her and elderly broke grandfather of six kids, to marry, buy my house, and be Out of the picture. Can someone here explain this bizarre behavior. Why souls a woman leave what she claimed was a perfect marriage, and take up with an extended member of the family, commit open adultry in front of her kids, and loose hundreds of thousands in a divorce settlement that went 100% in my favor? It has been off limits to bring it up, but now I must take drastic action against these middle aged romantics…and it will not be a welcome event. please Help if you can.
around to support my kids because now I found out I have stage 3 cancer, and I will never tell anyone about this until it is too late to recover from. If I die, the boys have this house to live in when they are out of school, if she just is going along with a hazards midlife alarm like her doctor told me,she screwed herself really good! and will soon be homeless, or loose her business here and be forced to move in with him, if he is ready or not. My question is, what is going on here! I married her as soon as I met her, and we had a blast for 19 years and made tons of money and had it all! I trusted her totally, I was her first boyfriend, and she went off and fell in love with dancing and a dance hall guy, and has lost it all. She says they will marry when it feels right, but she also told a friend while crying, he refuses to set a firm date! All I know is I will put her out of my house, and hope he is forced to take her on bymthen, right now I see a childish
