Wedding Planning Tips

My friend was going to do it last year but wasn’t able to. Now I’m getting married and want do it.

My roommate’s girlfriend wants to drop out of college because she wants to be a wedding planner. She is the kind of person, though, who once she does something, she gets bored and wants to quit. She has admitted this would probably happen. She doesn’t listen to my roommate, she doesn’t have any friends because she’s not friendly to people, and she just wants to go home. She also thinks everyone is incompetent, when really it’s kind of her who is incompetent about things. It’s getting a little ridiculous because she literally won’t listen to anyone. She thinks that when she gets married to my roommate that everything will be better. It won’t though. So I guess what I’m asking is this: what will it take for her to listen to words of wisdom? What will it take for her to change, or at least start to change?

So here’s the deal: I’m planning my wedding, and so far it’s going well. The problem is- I’ve been to 2 weddings my whole life, and I was in the bridal party at both so I’ve never experienced a wedding from a guests perspective. I don’t really know when to do things, such as the first dance, or how long everything should last. When do we do speeches? I just feel at a loss as to how to time everything, and I feel certain I’m probably missing out on a lot of things during my ceremony and reception. Could someone please just walk me through a traditional wedding?
I know I can make the wedding however I want, I just want to incorporate some tradition, and make sure I’m not missing out on things.
I know this is probably an annoying question, so thanks in advance for your help.

Muslims all over the world unfortunately have differing opinions on the ways things are done just like any other religion and even places that recognize a separation between religion and state (i.e. in the USA laws differ state to state even between counties and cities within the same state).
Humans will be humans, no?
My focal point is the Iraqi Muslim practice of martial beliefs since I am most familiar with that process and what many of the locals think in regard to Islamic marriage. So sorry for really drawing it out, but here you go:
If a Muslim and Muslimah marry in an Islamic civil court without the presence of a Mullah and without the recitation of the Fatihah between the couple is the marriage Halal or Harem?
Please note that in Iraqi civil court marriages a family representative from the bride’s side must be present, two witnesses for the marriage, one must state in front of the judge with the agreed dowry (mahr), and if the groom is not Muslim he must first go to a Mullah to get in writing his conversion to Islam then go back to the court and present the said documentation.
(The civil court also marries individuals from the People of the Book so long as it is Muslim/Muslimah, Muslim/Christian, Muslim/Jewish, Christian/Christian, etc)
However, many Iraqis don’t bother with the civil court marriage unless it is for travel/visa circumstances so many will just marry with the Mullah at the household with the family and the recitation of the Fatihah.
In addition, some Iraqis believe that the civil court marriage as described above is just a paper marriage and Harem in the view of Allah if the married couple engages in intimate relations. Thus, in their opinion making the marriage illegitimate unless a religious marriage is performed. Hence, from that standpoint if the couple marries through the civil court they are still viewed as only being engaged and the family will not allow the couple to be alone together, live together, kiss, etc. until the religious marriage is performed. Whereas with the the religious marriage the couple can do as they like.
Thanks for your time. I look forward to reading some good responses.

In the uk? I am making a spice mix to give as favours and can’t find them anywhere!

You are excited, but at the same time, you are also worried as you go about wedding planning. You know that this is only a once in a lifetime event and you want this to be the best. Well yeah, there are many people who ended up getting divorced after some time and go through the same process again and again when they choose to remarry. This shouldn’t bother you at all if this is going to be your first time. You should be optimistic that you can work it out and your partner is the right person whom you can spend forever with.

At this phase, your main problem is that you can only allot a limited budget on the venture. Do not let this fact burst your bubble. This should inspire you even more to work harder so that you can have the best wedding and a very memorable one even if you can’t afford lavish expenditures. If you are after good memories, here are some tips that you can consider when you are planning on what to do at such event.

1. You have to be certain about just how much you can allot on your wedding day. This is going to be the foundation of everything else that you need to decide from this point on. After you have calculated the exact amount, you will divide this exactly into parts that are composed of the details and needs that you need to get for your special day. This way, you will have an idea about how many people can you invite. If you can only tell some of your friends and relatives, don’t feel guilty. You can make it up in the future when you have more money to spend. You can host a party for a get together of those whom you weren’t able to invite on your wedding day. They will surely understand you because this event can really be expensive if you are not going to be firm and set your foot on certain decisions that you need to make while it is still on the planning stage.

2. Create a Plan B for everything. For example, the gowns can actually be rented, so why would you spend so much just to have a new one that you will never be able to use again? It is actually impractical, especially if you have sacrificed so many other important things just to get a new bridal gown. There are certain providers which will allow you to pick a design. They will create that gown and you will be the first one who is going to use it. But this is still under the condition that you will only rent the gown and you will return it once the occasion is done. This may be more costly than when you will opt for the gowns that are already available and in display. But this is still a lot cheaper than when you will buy a new one that you can keep after you have been married.

There are other things that you can look at to make sure that you will cut down the expenses during the wedding planning. You should focus your attention on how to create lasting memories even after the event is done.