Wedding Planning Tips

Help…married 9 months ago (together 3 years). Some tough issues for us – have to live apart (1 hour) because he remains living in same house with elderly parents – lots of family drama there. Fighting a lot lately, mostly because I notice him increasingly distant and unaffectionate toward me, and because of my frustration and hurt over the fact that the marriage very definitely is not his first priority.
Had a huge fight last night and basically, I just lost my ability to hold in all the pent up frustration, stress, hurt and, yes, fear and I laid it all out: I told him I don’t feel like he’s putting any effort into the marriage, that he doesn’t care about me or my child, that he criticizes his father for being unkind and not treating his wife well while he acts the same way….the whole bit. I didn’t plan to go there, but I have become so overwhelmed with this situation and the fact that he has made it clear that our marriage comes second to his parents…combined with virtually no affection, tenderness or love (but lots of “joking” insults, critcism and getting angry at me for silly things).
I’m not glad this happened, particularly since his response was less than loving or collaborative. This morning, for the first time ever, he refused to even come into the room to say goodbye to me – he just flicked on the lights and yelled out “goodbye”. When I rushed over to try to hug him he pushed me away, telling me he has nothing to say to me, no feelings of warmth, nothing…for me. I asked, “Ever again?” and his answer was “not right now!”. He left, saying I’d accused him of a lot of stuff that is BS and saying I love to be the victim (?). After he was gone, I noticed he’d taken his wedding ring off and laid it on the anniversary card I’d given him last week (he forgot). Haven’t heard from him since. I’m genuinely frightened and heartbroken (remember – we live an hour apart – I have no idea when or if he’ll ever call again or if I’ll see him this weekend, as is our usual routine).

Would it matter to a guy if his bride wasn’t a virgin even if he was the one who took her virginity before marriage? I was just curious about this. Though I don’t think most guys are this petty, I’ve heard some guys only want to marry a girl who’s a virgin. I’ve also heard this hurtful joke on FML.com that talks about this guy pressuring his virgin girlfriend into having sex with him when their still just dating, and when she finally gives in because she loves him and wants to marry him, he turns around and tells her he no longer wishes to marry her because she is no longer “chaste” and “pure,” even though he was the one who both pressured her then took her virginity. I’ve also heard that a woman who is getting married and is no longer a virgin would be a joke in her white wedding gown since the white dress is supposed to be a symbol of her purity. Do guys care about this with their future brides and would they be that crazy to not feel quite the same about their gf / fiancee, even though they might’ve been the one that took her virginity before they got married?

Would it matter to a guy if his bride wasn’t a virgin even if he was the one who took her virginity before marriage? I was just curious about this. Though I don’t think most guys are this petty, I’ve heard some guys only want to marry a girl who’s a virgin. I’ve also heard this hurtful joke on FML.com that talks about this guy pressuring his virgin girlfriend into having sex with him when their still just dating, and when she finally gives in because she loves him and wants to marry him, he turns around and tells her he no longer wishes to marry her because she is no longer “chaste” and “pure,” even though he was the one who both pressured her then took her virginity. I’ve also heard that a woman who is getting married and is no longer a virgin would be a joke in her white wedding gown since the white dress is supposed to be a symbol of her purity. Do guys care about this with their future brides and would they be that crazy to not feel quite the same about their gf / fiancee, even though they might’ve been the one that took her virginity before they got married?

I think it is very odd for a man to take his brides last name.
I know of someone who is doing this. When I asked him why he said that his fiancee refused to take his last name because it was geeky but he still wanted them to have the same last name.
That is just very wussy to me.

Marriage is between a man and a woman, period. Wedding , relations, and anything of that nature has always struck me as something holy, something special, something that I would wish to remember for the rest of my life.

Wedding Planning

Get that right and the rest follows. I like the wedding dress to be traditional, as that brings me back to the commitment aspect of a wedding. The best veil colours sometimes include white, diamond white, and ivory. I’m not non secular, but my favourite set of footage all of my life have been those of my parents’ wedding in their church.

This was true, as we shortly started a family and continued to grow up with our kids. And, so it has been.

Only 1 shoe. Goodness knows where the other one had gone! It was so dainty yet elegant and I set out to get a copy made for me to wear on my wedding day. From then on the shoe had a life of its own and it began to dictate my color palette, center-piece design, linen choice, and the direction I needed to go with my gown.

That shoe just got my creative juices flowing somehow, and it was the thought of my Gran, and her cherished shoe which she had not discussed before, but had kept so many years since. I’m sure description of her outline of her wedding that sent my senses tingling, and my mind reeling, with so many exciting wedding thoughts.

Steve asserted that guests numbering between 50-75 would be cool. Almost all gifts will be gifts will be gifts which will be useful to us as a couple all our married life. But, I found that accepting the gifts was no easy matter. I should not have worried, but I did at the time. How could these folk be so generous for me? I had so much already to be grateful for.

Those wedding shoes of my Gran’s were closed-toe, kitten heeled, blue leather. Not only were these the ideal wedding shoes for me, but they might looked hot with 2 jeans later! At the time naturally I didn’t know if the shoes would basically match my dress. I ordered them to be made on a hunch. Essentially, I could not bear to hold them up next to the dress and open my eyes when they arrived. I didn’t need them to match exactly, but they might need to coordinate.

I’m hoping that as you are reading this you are feeling the same much too.

I hope your experience will be anywhere near as good as mine.

Partying’s great, drinking’s great, too, but what I would have liked to have, as a Christian getting wed, was a heavy commitment, and I believe the best weddings still keep an amount of respect for that.

It occurred that way for us, but we stumbled upon wedding and our wedding plans, we were and still are committed, but when we made the choice there had been tiny time for planning – we just could not wait.

Finally, I realized that I was ready for a commitment. There wasn’t any stopping either of us then.So, we got started with our detailed wedding pans.

All of a sudden I had been thinking about haircuts, because I went to get my hair cut that weekend and asked my stylist in passing whether the salon does wedding hair. She claimed yes, all the stylists there do, and began to play with my hair to give me some ideas for what to do with mine. At the time I claimed to myself ; “I must be mad, why did I ask that?”

A Great Wedding Day

Our day turned out great for us, and our guests declared it absolutely was a great success for them too.

I was in a panic when I awoke that day.

Thanks go to all, but Jim especially who performed the speeches so very well for us, and I believed that ours was the ideal disco host accepting all requests.

My wedding day went precisely to our wedding plans, I do not believe could have been better than it was. I married a person, my opinion is that I am able to spend perpetuity with. But when we both asserted our vows I felt like we were paying each other the biggest compliment ever by promising paying one another the rest of our lives. I voiced this to Steve again yesterday and he revealed I told this piece of my life with me, and may your wedding plans also become real like this.

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