Wedding Planning Tips

In Jewish wedding, there is no exchange of vows as such. It is said that Jewish wedding vows are implicit part of the ritual. According to Jewish customs, Jewish wedding vows are recited when groom puts ring on the bride’s finger or during a double ring ceremony.
Before groom puts wedding ring on bride’s finger, he says, “Harey at mekuddeshet li B’taba’t zo k’dat Moshe V’israel.” It means, “Behold, thou are consecrated unto me with this ring according to the Law of Moses and of Israel.” Groom then places the ring on the finger of bride. If there is double ring ceremony, bride also say a vow which somewhat different.http://www.bestweddingvows.com/jewish-we…

wedding is month away we have to do our own vows and we need some help.
we want it funny and sweet/romatic. ans SHORT. we would like to somehow have fishing in there(like he is glad he reeled me in). also we are big with football and drinking beer. those are some ideas can anyone help! please and thanks

i need some help comming up with vows for my wedding besides the ones i have to repeat at church. anyone have any ideas for me? thanks!

First let me just tell you that I didn’t have a wedding with my friends and family. My husband and I were dual military when we married. The Navy and our commands made it very difficult to plan even the smallest of ceremonies 10 years ago. We had one date picked out that would work for both families, but the Navy decided to send my husband out to sea. In order to be stationed together we had to be legally married. We were married at the county court house with a retired judge, and no rings were exchanged. And we wore jeans and t-shirts.
I told my sister that we are starting to plan a renewal of vows for next summer. She was really excited, because she said that we deserve a real wedding. My sister called our brothers and told them that they should help us plan a wedding. My older brother said that he would make our cake, and food. My sister said we could go shopping for a gorgeous dress. And my youngest brother said that he would perform our ceremony, since he’s an associate pastor of a huge church. Whoa, I told them all. This is NOT a wedding, this is a renewal of vows. It’s going to be a very simple ceremony. Plus they all wanted to help pay for it. And I told them NO! My brothers and my sister all had a very nice wedding, and they want the same for me. I just want a renewal of vows.
My younger siblings want to repay me for all of the things that I did for them. I did the things that I did, because I love them. They are my sister and brother. I wanted them to have a better start in life, then what I had. I guess I should explain that my younger brother and sister are the children that my douche bag of a sperm donor had with a woman that he never married. Their mother is one of the sweetest women that I have ever known. She had to work really hard to keep a roof over their heads and food on the table. That douche bag never supported his two other children. When I found them in 1995, I was in the military, and I helped their mom financially. I didn’t make a lot of money, but I sent them money every month. When my great-grandmother died she left me and my older brother a great deal of money. My older brother and I set aside some money for our younger siblings education. My sister is now an RN, and my younger brother is a pastor of a church.
I love my family very much, but I don’t want them going over board. I just want a very simple renewal of vows, with my immediate family and a few close friends. I don’t want to be rude to my siblings, but I don’t want them to plan something that shouldn’t really happen. Do you have any ideas of what I should say, without being rude?

I married my husband in a civil ceremony 10 years ago. Due to circumstances beyond our control neither of our families could be present. My husband asked me sometime ago if I wanted to have a renewal of vows. I wasn’t sure what to say really. He remembers how disappointed I was that we couldn’t have a wedding with our families present.
This morning while he was getting ready for work, we talked a bit about having a renewal of vows. He said that he been thinking about going to either Las Vegas or Reno, NV next year, and have a renewal of vows in a wedding chapel. Apparently he had talked to my mom and my mil about it last night after on a three way call, after I had gone to bed. My husband said that they both think that it’s time to have a wedding of some sort.
I like the idea of wearing a pretty dress, exchanging rings for the first time, and saying our vows again in front of our families. But on the other hand, I this is it really out of the question for a married couple to have a renewal of vows? Our moms rarely ask anything of us, but they really want this to happen. I’m not just not sure what we should do. Maybe I’m just feeling nostalgic, because I’m stuck on bed rest and bored out of my mind! Who knows? I don’t know, what do you all think? Please be nice to me, I’m just a really bored pregnant lady with nothing better to do.

My husband and I got married in 2004, when I was 19 and he was 21 years old. We invited over 200 guests to the wedding, but didn’t receive a single RSVP in the mail…we chalked this up to our families not really being the “formal” types, and just assumed that most would still come. We rented a hall, and had enough food to feed about 200 people…38 showed up.
Most of the people who were nice enough to come, were close family and friends…but even some “important” family/friends didn’t show up.
Our 10 year anniversary is less than 3 years away, and we are beginning to wonder if we should renew our vows and have some sort of party/event to celebrate…or should we just not bother, based on what happened with the wedding?
Our wedding invitations were sent out about 7 months prior to the wedding, so plenty of notice was given to our guests…also, pre-addressed, stamped RSVP envelopes were provided with the wedding invitations. To make matters worse, many people who RSVP’d by telling us in-person, didn’t actually show up. Our wedding happened on a beautiful, sunny day, so weather was no excuse.
We just don’t know what we did wrong, or what happened…and we don’t know whether it would be worth our time, money and effort to plan an anniversary event…or should we just not bother? I would love to celebrate our anniversary with the close friends & family that did show up to our wedding, but I am also scared that even less of them may show up this time.
Opinions?

my husband an i would like to renew our vows this year, in oct. we are currently in germany because he is stationed here. we just moved here. so i have no idea how to go about this. we didn’t have a “real” wedding. it was a very small.. an although now i don’t think a lot of people will be coming out being so far from home.. we’ve always talked about doing it this anv. plus its really hard to work around deployments, an were not sure if he’ll be going this year or not. so if anyone could help me id be appreciative. any places to go here, an any idea’s are welcomed.

1. “I Do” style – The marriage officiate asks the vow, with bride and groom each replying “I Do” (ie. “do you take this man…. till death do you part”)
2. Repeat after me style (ie. officiate:”I Jack take you Jill”; groom: “I Jack take you Jill…”)
3. Memorized style – bride and groom recite their vows without help from the officiate
4. Alternating lines between bride and groom (ie. bride: “I vow to love you”;groom: “to be your best friend”;bride: “…”;groom: “…”)

Okay so here’s the deal. My husband and I got married in January of 09. We did so without telling anyone, no family members were invited. Nothing. We planned on having a ceremony shortly thereafter but then my husband was to be deployed. So my next thought was we would have the ceremony after he gets back. I thought that would be perfect because it would kinda be like a “we made it!” ceremony as well. Meaning made it through the deployment. FYI, we didn’t get married because of a pregnancy or anything.
Anyways…its now obviously January 2011 and my husband is now deployed after a year of them saying he will be deploying so we couldn’t plan anything for the last 2 stinkin years! I would love to have a ceremony mostly because we now have a little girl and I want to be able to show her pictures when she gets older of our wedding day. Even if she is in them. He doesn’t get back until December of next year and I am toying with the idea of having a renewing of our vows ceremony.
I am worried that people may think this is ridiculous because we will have been married for 3 years. Not exactly long enough to celebrate but past the chance of having the ceremony we wanted within that first year. I guess I am worried about everyone going to the expense of traveling to where ever the ceremony will be held and then thinking that it is somewhat pointless because we are already married and now have a baby.
Sad thing is….we don’t even have a picture of us the day we were married. =(
Now my family lives all over the place, some in Cali, some in Germany, and some in Montana and Florida. It will cost a lot to travel from Germany and Montana. I am worried too that some people that are important to me wont show up because of the expense of flying and its not like we aren’t married….if you catch what I am trying to say.
I would like other people’s opinions on whether it is, I guess, “socially acceptable” to have a ceremony after 3 years of marriage. Please be honest if you believe one way or the other.
Thanks in advance!!

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Opening Prayer:
Heavenly Father, love has been Your richest and greatest gift to the world. Love between a man and woman which matures into marriage is one of Your most beautiful types of loves. Ten years ago, ***** & ****** didn’t have you in their lives. Since then they have accepted your Son as their Lord & Savior! I ask that you guide, and bless ***** and ****** in their marriage. Surround them and us with Your love now and always. Amen.
Charge:
Let me charge you both to remember, that your happiness is to be found in mutual consideration, patience, kindness, confidence, and affection. The hand you freely give to each other, is both the strongest and the most tender part of your body. In the years ahead you will need both strength and tenderness. As you stand in the Lords’s presence, remember that love and loyalty alone will serve as the foundations of a happy and enduring home.
Vows:
***** & ******, When you first joined hands and hearts in marriage 10 years ago, you did not have the Lord in your life. On that day you promised to love, honor and cherish one another through all things. Life has surely brought you both wonderful blessings and difficult challenges over the years. But here you are today, you are giving your marriage over to the Lord. And God is smiling! As you celebrate here today, and as you reflect back over all the years as husband and wife, do you now wish to reaffirm the vows you took 10 years ago? If you do say, we do!
*****, do you again take ***** as your wife, to continue to live in this happy & loving marriage?
*****, I will.
Do you reaffirm your love, commitment, faith, fidelity in every season that my come?
*****, I do
******, do you again take ***** as your husband to continue to live in this happy & loving marriage.
******, I do.
Do you reaffirm your love, commitment, faith, fidelitey in every season to come?
******, I do.
Rings:
***** & ******, on your wedding day you didn’t exchange rings. 10 years later you wish to give each other a symbol of your love. Always remember that a ring is the never-ending circle that symbolizes the eternal quality of God, unending strength, and unending love.
*****, place the ring on ******’s finger and repeat after me. ******, please wear this ring as a symbol of our love for the Lord and for each other. Let it remind you that no matter where I am, you are always in my heart.
****** place this rings on *****’s finger and repeat after me. *****, please weart his ring as a symbol of our love for the Lord and each other. Let it remind you that no matter where I am, you are always in my heart.
Children:
One of the great blessings of marriage is the joy and responsibility of raising a family. ***** and ****** have truly been blessed to be the parents of ******, ******, ******, ******. As ****** & ****** renew their vows of marriage today, they also renew their commitment to be loving and caring parents to ******, ******, ******, ******, recognizing with gratefulness the the happiness and fulfillment that all of their children have brought to their marriage and family life.
Pronouncement:
***** & ******, today you have renewed the promises and vows you made to each other on your wedding day. You have symbolized the renewal of the marriage union by the joining of hands, the taking of vows, and by exchanging of rings. It is my pleasure to say that they are again husband & wife. *****, you may kiss your lovely bride again!

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