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Why not?

(This is long, so bear with me, thanks)
Four years ago, I had a big crush on this guy. He was an a*ss and had a girlfriend, and was making advances at me anyway. The girlfriend was kind of a bimbo, and he once told me that he liked my intelligence and found it refreshing. They broke up for a short time, and the first thing he did was try to figure out if I was available. He was REALLY inappropriate with me though (trying to get me to send him naked pictures, trying to make plans to fly to where I live for some secret rendezvous AFTER they had gotten back together), and I wouldn’t give into his crap. Eventually, he ended up proposing to and marrying the other girl and broke off contact with me. I had really liked him and hoped that he would change his ways and then we could be together, but that never happened, so I got over it and moved on.
About a year ago, I met this wonderful, amazing guy who treated me with nothing but kindness and respect. I was a 28 year old virgin when we met, and unlike the few other guys i’ve dated, he never made me feel like there was anything wrong with me, he never pressured me for a second, he just completely and totally accepted it and said he loved me and would wait absolutely as long as I needed him to. He waited for more than six months, and would have been willing to wait until we were married if that was what I wanted. Just absolutely the kind of guy I had always dreamed of, in every way. We ended up getting engaged, and I couldn’t have been happier.
Recently, the guy from years ago has gotten back in contact with me. He said he had gotten a divorce and was coming up to where I live for business, so he’d like to meet up. I said OK, thinking it was completely innocent. I told my fiancé all about it, because I had nothing to hide, and even though he wasn’t thrilled about it, he wanted me to resolve whatever unfinished business I had with this guy before we were married, for my own sake. So I met up with this guy, and it was just surreal – we ended up spending a perfect day together, more perfect than I could have imagined. I said some things that in retrospect, I probably shouldn’t have – I admitted that I had really liked him way back when despite his behavior and had just been waiting for him to grow up to tell him how I felt. I also (stupidly) let it out that I didn’t know if I was missing out since I had only ever been with my fiance. He actually apologized for being such a douchebag years ago. He told me that he wished he had known that I liked him back then, because he had thought about me all the time and just thought I wasn’t really into him. At the end of the day, when he dropped me back off at my apartment, he told me suddenly that he needed to do something, and he should have done it back when we first met – then he kissed me! I was shocked at first, but it felt so natural and I couldn’t help myself…we ended up having sex. It was amazing while it was happening, but afterwards I remembered that I was getting married in a month and this would crush my fiancé, and everything started going to hell.
I have a wedding scheduled in 3 weeks. My fiancé has no idea that I slept with another man, and I don’t know whether to tell him or not. Believe me, I KNOW what I did was terrible, and I feel like hell. But I don’t know whether it would actually be selfish to tell him about it, because it would only be unburdening myself and hurting him. The other guy is after me now too, telling me he’s in love with me and trying to persuade me to cancel the wedding. I have feelings for both of them and have no idea what to do. My fiancé is such a great guy and I can’t stand the thought of hurting him, but I can’t help but think everything that happened with this other guy is what I fantasized about years ago.
What should I do?

(This is long, so bear with me, thanks)
Four years ago, I had a big crush on this guy. He was an a*ss and had a girlfriend, and was making advances at me anyway. The girlfriend was kind of a bimbo, and he once told me that he liked my intelligence and found it refreshing. They broke up for a short time, and the first thing he did was try to figure out if I was available. He was REALLY inappropriate with me though (trying to get me to send him naked pictures, trying to make plans to fly to where I live for some secret rendezvous AFTER they had gotten back together), and I wouldn’t give into his crap. Eventually, he ended up proposing to and marrying the other girl and broke off contact with me. I had really liked him and hoped that he would change his ways and then we could be together, but that never happened, so I got over it and moved on.
About a year ago, I met this wonderful, amazing guy who treated me with nothing but kindness and respect. I was a 28 year old virgin when we met, and unlike the few other guys i’ve dated, he never made me feel like there was anything wrong with me, he never pressured me for a second, he just completely and totally accepted it and said he loved me and would wait absolutely as long as I needed him to. He waited for more than six months, and would have been willing to wait until we were married if that was what I wanted. Just absolutely the kind of guy I had always dreamed of, in every way. We ended up getting engaged, and I couldn’t have been happier.
Recently, the guy from years ago has gotten back in contact with me. He said he had gotten a divorce and was coming up to where I live for business, so he’d like to meet up. I said OK, thinking it was completely innocent. I told my fiancé all about it, because I had nothing to hide, and even though he wasn’t thrilled about it, he wanted me to resolve whatever unfinished business I had with this guy before we were married, for my own sake. So I met up with this guy, and it was just surreal – we ended up spending a perfect day together, more perfect than I could have imagined. I said some things that in retrospect, I probably shouldn’t have – I admitted that I had really liked him way back when despite his behavior and had just been waiting for him to grow up to tell him how I felt. I also (stupidly) let it out that I didn’t know if I was missing out since I had only ever been with my fiance. He actually apologized for being such a douchebag years ago. He told me that he wished he had known that I liked him back then, because he had thought about me all the time and just thought I wasn’t really into him. At the end of the day, when he dropped me back off at my apartment, he told me suddenly that he needed to do something, and he should have done it back when we first met – then he kissed me! I was shocked at first, but it felt so natural and I couldn’t help myself…we ended up having sex. It was amazing while it was happening, but afterwards I remembered that I was getting married in a month and this would crush my fiancé, and everything started going to hell.
I have a wedding scheduled in 3 weeks. My fiancé has no idea that I slept with another man, and I don’t know whether to tell him or not. Believe me, I KNOW what I did was terrible, and I feel like hell. But I don’t know whether it would actually be selfish to tell him about it, because it would only be unburdening myself and hurting him. The other guy is after me now too, telling me he’s in love with me and trying to persuade me to cancel the wedding. I have feelings for both of them and have no idea what to do. My fiancé is such a great guy and I can’t stand the thought of hurting him, but I can’t help but think everything that happened with this other guy is what I fantasized about years ago.
What should I do?

i’m getting married on sept 15,2012 at wild cat den. its going to be an outside wedding by the mill. my colors are going to be light pink and black. and i don’t know how to decorate outside for the wedding. if anyone could help with ideas i would really appreciate it. pictures are always a plus! if you have any other questions i would be happy to answer thank you =]

obviously it’s the couple’s special day, so they should do it as they see fit. the idea of a destination wedding sounds fun, and it’s a kind of vacation for everyone. at the same time, is asking people to buy a plane ticket, pay for accommodations, etc. just too much?
in your opinion, how much is too much for an average cost for a guest attending a DW?
BQ: barring your real present situation, if you were planning a destination wedding, where would it be?

Besides the old “Our religious parents (grandparents) [who might be paying for the wedding] made us do it!”, what are some reasons that otherwise generally non-Orthodox / non-observant/ less observant couples make such a show of a traditional / Orthodox service? I see this on TV reality shows all the time. You see a couple, who you may not realize are Jewish: the bride is wearing a short strappy / sleeveless / strapless dress, the groom doesn’t cover his hair, and then they surprise you by standing under the chuppah in a covered up dress and a kittel. Then you notice she’s shed some layers or changed into something much more revealing for the reception. You may even see the bride attending three other weddings (on a particular show, hint, hint!) where the gentile brides serve pork, shrimp, and cheeseburger sliders, and our Jewish bride shows up as scantily clad as everyone else, or close to it.
These weddings often feature mixed dancing, few if none of the married women cover their hair, there are lots of low cut outfits, the men don’t cover their hair (or more bizarrely, they do!) and there’s an all around confusing image projected after the very Orthodox style wedding ceremony which likely had every element save the separate seating favored by many Orthodox Jews in recent years. The latest one I saw on TV had the typical couple as I described getting married in Washington DC, where the bride wore a beautiful (very) Modern Orthodox style outfit consisting of a common style sweetheart neckline strapless gown with a slightly sheer, mock-neck, 3/4 sleeve, beaded body suit underneath to make it modest, while the groom wore a kippah and a kittel (formal, pocket-less, pleat front ceremonial white burial shroud) over his suit in the Orthodox (Ashkenazi) style. The rabbi wore a REFORM style prayer shawl, and the bride and groom kissed after the I do’s. No traditional Jewish vows were exchanged (so it really wasn’t that traditional, but the clothing had me fooled for a while). No pork or shellfish were served at the reception, but there was gorgonzola cheese in the poached pear served right before the hefty chunk of beef, and there was butter-cream frosting on the cake. The bride did remove the body suit and eventually changed into a more revealing dress. I’ve seen much more traditional ceremonies than that on these shows, and the couples were very similar in their dress and behavior. Very confusing.
1) I know that in Israel, Orthodox ceremonies are required by law, so even the most scantily clad brides marrying grooms with all their chest hair showing from the most secular families will stand before Orthodox or maybe even haredi (ultra-Orthodox) rabbis, but this is the US, where people do what they want.
2) I know that some parents bargain, guilt, coerce or even force their child/children to have Orthodox weddings for many reasons, like keeping up appearances for religious families, or for practical reasons like making sure their marriage is punctiliously performed according to Jewish law, so there is no future problem of remarriage or illegitimate children. I’m not talking about that either.
I’m looking for as many other reasons as you all can offer. I’ve thought this out for years, and I’m curious what others have to say. If you watch reality shows where people get married (there are lots, and lots of them today, I can’t even count) and you know the differences of what goes on at say an Orthodox wedding, a Sephardi or Oriental wedding, a Hasidic, Conservative, Reform, Reconstructionist, New Age or whatever other kind of Jewish wedding you can think of, you’ll know what I’m talking about. Maybe you’ve been to one of these weddings, or you got married this way. I just want to know: What gives?

We are planning our wedding for next summer and looking to do the ceremony and reception at a barn or farm in Minnesota. Location isn’t necessarily an issue if it is in mn or close by in Wisconsin. We checked out the round barn in red wing but that is a little too pricey for us. Any ideas??

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My sister has been engaged for a while now and really wants to start planning the wedding… i’m 18 and live 7 hours away for university, but really want to stop doing things to get the ball rolling. I’ve never been to a wedding in my life so I’m really unsure of how things work.. When do people do bachlorette partys? how close to the wedding? what types of things need to be organized? i know theres the reception, stag and doe (how far in advance can u do the stag and doe? and this is to raise money FOR the wedding correct?), photographers, catering, drinks, dresses, brides maids, flowers…. what are some other MAIN parts of the wedding! help is much appreciated!

Independence Day
They were married on the fourth of July.
not from an excess of patriotism
but simply spur of the moment timing.
The notary was celebrating Independence at the local American Legion Hall, so
after buying roses at the grocery store, parents in tow,
they all lined up in front of a row of flags outside.
The groom’s eyes watered from a flag in the breeze
smacking him in the face repeatedly.
His mother cried and the bride
wearing sunglasses and a corsage
forgot to spit out her gum.
Afterwards they were presented with a marriage license
and an invitation for drinks on the house
courtesy of all the veterans gathered round.
Years later the bride remembers
and just has to laugh.