My girlfriend and I are planning to elope this summer, marry in secret without the knowledge of family and friends. Neither of us have a lot of money, and wearing rings would probably give rise to suspicion from others. I know my girlfriend really wants a ring, and so do I. But it almost seems best to never get them. Should our vows be enough to symbolize our love and lifelong commitment to eachother? Is it weird that we don’t have rings, even if we want them? I just don’t want to short-change our day, and am afraid not having rings will make it less meaningful. Not only that, members of the opposite sex will think we’re single. Your thoughts?
Marriage Without A Wedding?
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My sister is thinking about getting married in a courthouse but without having an actual wedding and celebration. Instead, after they got to court to get married, they are honeymooning in Las Vegas and then buying a house together. It’s not that they can’t afford it, it’s just that they want to spend their money on other things that will work in their favor in the long run. Do you think this is smart or a bad idea? (And please, no rude comments.) Thanks!
i want to plan a wedding, just for fun, but i dont want to make an account or sign into anything. i just want to have fun and make my “dream” wedding. theknot.com has a great wedding planner thingy, but it requires your adress and such so they can send you things. are there any websites i can plan my wedding just for fun?
My Fiance’s Mom is very opinionated. He is currently on a short business trip near his hometown, so he is staying with his parents for two nights. He said tonight was “wedding central” and his Mom was showing pictures from her wedding, talking about it, getting excited about planning our wedding, etc.
Tonight she shared the following strong opinions:
1)” If he is wearing a suit he HAS to get a Tom Forde cut”
2) “The style of wedding dresses I like looks like Maternity dresses.”
3) She offered her wedding dress and her mother-in-laws. I have seen her dress and it’s just…no. 90’s and way too big, even with alterations and just not my styel whatsoever. I asked to see a picture of the mother in law’s, it sounds like it could be pretty and we could get it altered. I love the idea of having a vintage dress that is not expensive, but I still want to try on dresses, that’s one of the only things I am really looking forward to other than venue shopping.
4) She has offered for us to use their house, which is so sweet and I wish we could! But we,and most of our guests minus his very small, 5 member family, will be coming from Northern California, a 6+ hour drive. I don’t want to plan a wedding in So Cal and ask my entire family to pay for travel and hotels, for our small little wedding.
I am just already feeling a little overwhelmed. I didn’t mind her comment on “maternity dresses” just the fact that it was followed by offering to give me a dress. I feel like she is discouraging me from shopping and finding MY style. And the offer is VERY sweet, so I need to word it carefully if I decline the offer.
Has anyone navigated these waters before? Instead of having her nitpick about every detail, I would rather just let her pick out one thing. My fiance and I have already discussed the main details and I have been consulting my cousin who has helped me with ideas and is on the same page. Maybe cake? I wouldn’t be opposed to her and my fiance picking out the flavor and style. We have a few really good, high end bakeries in town. (especially if she wants to pay for it haha) because I just don’t eat cake much and could care less. I don’t know. I guess the more I think about it, I want to kind of be in charge of the planning but I want her to feel included, ESPECIALLY if she and her husband help pay for it. It’s her son’s day too, and she doesn’t have a daughter and they don’t have any other kids. This is it! I just need suggestions on finding that balance between letting people help but being able to kindly, lovingly but firmly reign them in. How did you do it for your wedding?
I’m a single women in her late 40s who has never married or had children. I take care of myself, support myself with a good job and have had 2 long term relationships. For responsible reasons, I have not married or had children. I am lucky enough to look in my mid 30s an still get asked on dates (sorry, this is not a boast, I’m just saying it as it is). I’ve had some nasty comments thrown at me from married colleagues or even family, such as:
‘Where did you go wrong?’ (ironically made by a widow who lives alone)
‘Go on! Have a baby, you’d be a great mother!’ (made by a Mom of 3 who is always trying to come on women only vacations/trips with me & leaving her boys with her husband).
or even worse ‘Actually, I don’t think you’d be a good mother’. (made by a woman who always said she had no maternal instinct and ‘got’ pregnant at 41)
‘Your cousin is getting married, she’ll make a lovely bride. When can we by the hats for your wedding?’ (made by an older never married cousin)
Why can’t these people just accept me and the life that I have? Why are they assuming something has to be done with my ’situation’? Don’t they see that marriage and children these days often ends up very badly?
Revelation 21:4
4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”
Revelation 22:1, 2, 17
1 And he showed me a river of water of life, clear as crystal, flowing out from the throne of God and of the Lamb 2 down the middle of its broad way. And on this side of the river and on that side [there were] trees of life producing twelve crops of fruit, yielding their fruits each month. And the leaves of the trees [were] for the curing of the nations. And the spirit and the bride keep on saying: “Come!” And let anyone hearing say: “Come!” And let anyone thirsting come; let anyone that wishes take life’s water free.
John 17:3
This means everlasting life, their taking in knowledge of you, the only true God, and of the one whom you sent forth, Jesus Christ.
Do You Want to LIVE Forever?
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Next Tuesday is our 2nd wedding anniversary and i’m pretty sure my husband plans on taking me to King’s Island. It was one of our first dates and he thinks it will be really fun. I’m looking forward to it but I feel kind of strange going to a amusement park without my son! He’s only 20 months old and too young to enjoy an amusement park but it still feels a little strange. Would you all feel weird going without your kids? Even if they were young?
I’ve been “going out” with this guy for a month and a half, the first three weeks we saw each other once or twice a week and talk every day on the phone, some weekends we couldn’t see each other because where I live is summer and I go to my beach house and he goes to other beach with his family. Last week on friday I went to his house and we had sex. After that he had called me on tuesday and I called him on wednesday, and then I didn’t hear from him until saturday night, when he was attending a wedding and I was at the beach. The problem is that he calls me, he says he likes to hang out with me, but we don’t see each other. I know that a guy that likes you is never too busy and will always make time for you. But this guy has told me he likes me, a couple of times he has called a little drunk from some parties (when he was at the beach and I was far from him), I mean if he didn’t like me he wouldn’t even call me and hook up with who ever girl is there. Anyways, I want to know what’s going so I was planning on talking to him? I would like to know how to approach it without pressuring him (when we talked he told me he ended with his ex girlfriend, about 4 years ago, because she constantly wanted to be with him, and he didn’t have time for his friends and family). Today we talked because he told me that if I arrived early to my house from the beach we could go to the movies, so when i arrived i called him and he said 3 of his best friends were leaving town today and tomorrow (i knew they were here) and he called them and he was going to visit them, i was sad and acted like I didn’t care, but he asked me are you sad? I hear your voice a little sad…I said I was sleepy but I was sad. Sometimes I try to hide my feelings because I don’t want to get hurt and I haven’t expressed my feelings to him. Should I tell him what I feel? Please help! I’m confused! He is 27 and me too but I have never had a boyfriend!!
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My fiance and I figure that to save money and to eliminate the number of random people at our wedding (we are planning to have a fairly intimate wedding, less than 100 guests), we shouldn’t have to let our single friends bring a plus one.
Obviously, whoever is married, engaged, or has a significant other, will get a + guest on their invitation, but seeing as how all of our single friends know each other and wont feel left out without a date, we feel that we shouldn’t have to spend $100+ per plate on people we don’t know.
What do you think? I’ve heard people tell me it’s your wedding, do whatever you want, and others who say that it’s cheap to invite someone without letting them bring a date. Thanks for your opinion!
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Not Comfortable Traveling Without My Spouse?
Tagged Under : Comfortable, Spouse, Traveling, without
My husband and I have been married for a year (dating for 10 years). I own a business and work in an industry where I travel a LOT. Whenever I travel, he comes with me because I personally don’t like to fly, and especially not alone.
We don’t have a problem with this and some of our friends, oddly enough the single ones or the “un”happily married ones, poke fun at us for the fact that we spend so much time together. They think it’s unhealthy for us not to spend time apart. We pretty much stopped hanging out with those friends and started hanging out with other like-minded couples and have been really happy to find people who understand where we are coming from.
Recently however, an old very dear friend of mine who moved to another country years ago, told me she was getting married. She asked me to be her maid of honor. I am so excited for her wedding. It’s a quiet small wedding in France and both my husband and I are attending together. However, she just dropped the bomb on me that she wants to have a bachelorette party in the Caribbean, “just the girls”, for before the wedding. Apparently her fiance is having a “boys only” trip to Vegas that week and she doesn’t want to sit home.
I have a few problems with this…
1. Money. We are spending a lot of money to fly to France and stay there, and now she wants me to fly to the Caribbean and spend money to stay there too.
2. Time off. This means she wants me to take half a week off of work, on top of the week I’m spending to go to France. My husband and I had already planned to spend an extra week in Europe on a cruise so we could maximize our time there and see a lot of places. So this means I’d need to take off almost 3 full weeks of work, which is virtually impossible.
3. I don’t know everyone who she is inviting but I know some of them enough to know that they are trouble with a capital T. A majority of them are single, love to drink, and perpetually on the hunt for men. I can just see this trip turning into a complete disaster, full of drunken cat fights, vomit, and heavy flirting, as it always is when this group gets together. In fact, I just traveled with 2 of them for my own destination wedding and I regretted every minute of inviting them. It was a disaster. I am way passed that stage in my life and am actually repulsed by it. Why would I want to spend a week around it?
4. She specifically requested “No Men”. This means my husband cannot come with me, and while most people think this is a welcomed break from their significant other, we don’t feel that way about each other. Even after 10 years of being inseparable, we don’t like being away from each other for long periods of time. Maybe later on down the line when we have children or have been together for a longer time, we’ll grow out of this, but at the moment, still being newlyweds and all, we aren’t comfortable traveling without each other yet.
I don’t know how to explain this to my friend. As the maid of honor I can’t just back out of the trip. In fact, I’m supposed to be the one organizing it. What do I do? How do I say it?
